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How do i find a way out of this darkaness?

I am 18 years old, i usd to hv so many frnds, my parents struggle alot financialy, i dnt hv pretty clothes that other kids wear, nw dat am 18 nd in a relationship, i also wud lyk to have those pretty clothes jst to look gud nd be lyk other children..whereva i go i feel lyk pple r busy gossipin abt me abt hw i luk nd dress lyk..bcs of dat  nw am always indoors , am afraid to go owt, am even afraid 2 go owt wit ma bf bcz i feel lyk he nw knwz all ma clothes, i cnt even hangowt wit ma frnds bcz it hurts 2 hear them brag abt wat their parents bought 4 them..i feel lyk am alone...im a very funny person, bt nw i feel lyk im alone..i lv ma parents, they also wish they could do more nd i understand their situation...how do i get owt of this darkness?  
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Hey there!

I know how you feel, everywhere i go i am always worried about what people are thinking or if there talking about me when im not looking. You dont have to look pretty on the outside,  beauty counts on the inside only, not the outside and the people who dont see it that way and think they need to be as perfect looking as possible are likely just as insecure as your feeling right now.
Its all about whats inside, and if someone gives you a hard time because of the way you look there not worth your time.
And you dont have to dress pretty and look perfect for your boyfriend because obviously he likes you just the way you are inside and out if hes your boyfriend!
Get out and be social, be yourself,  and dont care what people think about what you look like because huge chances are they will see past that and see your personality and love you for that, you said your funny person so show them!!
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You are no longer a child. Help your parents and get a job! Them you can provide your own nice clothes.
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Hi,

Sorry but having nice clothing is not a priority. I know what its like not being the pretty one or having thise nice things and I know that sometimes it can make you feel sad but at least you have som form of clothes. And sorry but learn to spell, and if you do know please spell correctly. It makes you sound like a junkie which im sure your not.

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Most teens wear jeans and t-shirts. Many shop at Walmart and other low cost stores. If having nice clothes is your only problem, other than spelling, I wonder why you are not posting in a teen forum rather than a serious forum about depression.
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Your an adult if you want nice things get a J O B! My parents didn't buy me stuff when I turned 18 and guess what I saved the money I had got a job got a car and my own place. Your not a little baby anymore you gotta help yourself playtime is over.
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Sounds like you're being pretty selfish. Your parents are having a hard time and all you can think about is how they aren't buying you expensive clothes etc. Be grateful they are feeding you and putting a roof over your head
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I agree with above comments. I really do know where you come from when it comes to people gossiping about you because i have been bullied most my life.
But i agree with the above posters about being more grateful for what you do have. If you really understood your parents situation and them not being able to buy nice things for you, then you wouldnt of made it into such an issue for yourself. Be happy with what they can do for you, because countless people in this world are very much less fortunate than you. There are people out there who only have one set of clothes to call there own, thats the clothes on there backs. These people would be more than happy to have your clothes. People face that reality everyday, and it doesnt stop there. They face the reality of not having a warm house and a warm bed to sleep in, there not guarenteed meals or fresh water. At the end of the day, you get to go home to ALL of that but for them, its just another cold night sleeping on a slab of cardboard under a bridge on an empty stomache.
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Hi honey, often times you can pick up really nice used clothes. My son often did going through high school. I honestly think that you should really take advantage of  living at home, and think about going to school. Oftentimes you can get a student loan to do that. Have you thought about what you'd like to do for a living. If you need to you can get a job. An easy job is security work and you can often get over night shifts while going to school during the day. All you really need to get by right now is a couple of pairs of jeans and tshirts, and warm outerwear. Don't worry too much about your clothes, i'm sure your a pretty girl, you have a boyfriend, that should tell you something right? Don't be depressed about not having extra things right now. Concentrate on an higher education for yourself, there are often grants for you based on your parent's income. If you consider getting a Bachelor of Arts, you can get a job teaching English as a Second Language and travel the world. Think BIG honey, and get an education so you won't have to struggle financially for the rest of your life and for goodness sake, on't sweat the small stuff.  It is true that you have two healthy parents, are healthy yourself, you have everything in the world to be happy about if you have your health. When you start to back track and feel depressed, think about others who don't have their health, or a roof, and turn that frown upside down. I had a lot of abuse growing up, and not many clothes, and i had a lot of friends who had more than i did. It didn't matter though to me, I had my health and i had friends. Please don't isolate from your friends, i'm sure they never give your wardrobe a second thought. Do you know how many kids come from wealth and their parent's are pulling their hair out because their kids only want to wears sweat pants or jeans? Believe me, that know one cares about your comfortable clothes. Don't let your parent's know that you feel bad about not having "pretty" things. That would break their hearts. Just be glad you have a mom and a dad, that their together, healthy and they love you.
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sort it out..your so young...just sort it out...
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hi..i guess i forgot how hard it was to be 18...you will realise who your friends really are...just be happy in life...and dont care what anybody thinks...do what makes you happy hun x
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Like other children??...not to sound mean sweetie, but you're not a child anymore, you are legally an adult. And I know it *****, I used to always worry what people think about me or if they're talking about me. But the truth is, in the end.. it doesn't even matter. Seriously. And there are people with WAY bigger issues out there than just brand name clothes. I am 18 years old and pregnant by a guy that I'm in love with that randomly denies my child. I don't even have a place to live right now, I'm staying in an AFC home that my aunt runs with 18 other people living here. And no one is helping me. Be thankful that cool clothes are the least of your worries. Seriously.
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