How do i go on??

[afraidofmyself]

I dont know how to stop being depressed and it is getting to a bad level. I do have a job and i try to function at it...but every one can tell im losing it. I try and get out of the house, and do things...but i never feel good about myself and i cry. My first true love dumped me after 3 years because he wasn't ready to settle down or have a girlfriend and wanted to party and do drugs and get wasted... a month later started dating a good friend i introduced him to a few months prior who lived at my house with her 2 kids. I thought they were crushing on each other so i asked my friend not to come over to his house on the weekend and 2 weeks later he dumped me in South Lake Tahoe on our vacation, and a month after the break up started dating that friend...she also likes drugs (heroin and meth) and drinking...and i dont...now it has been 2 months since he broke up with me and a month of they "dating" and im driving myself crazy. I was cutting after he broke up with me then stopped...but when i found out they were "dating" my cutting came back, worse then ever. Ive been to the doctor and they dont care...and i cant afford to try and see them anymore...i have never been so betrayed and i cant cope with it. I pray each night that i never wake up and each day when i get into my car i pray someone hits me head on just to end it for me. I've neveer been so low in my life and i fear i cannot make it anymore..

[donnaj48]

Hi
Here are a few things that might help that are for both  anxiety and depression.  Maybe a few will help you out.

1.  Instead of fighting the anxiety go with it - fighting it can make is worse and last longer.
2.  Do deep breathing exercises by taking a few deep breaths and releasing slowly. To put it a different way, combing 1 & 2 - ABC’s - Accept, Breath, Challenge. (replace your irrational thoughts with rational ones).
3.  Count backwards from 100 by 3's when you feel the anxiety coming on. The idea behind this is for you to take control of the anxiety before it controls you. Try doing some deep breathing before you do this.
4.  Do something that you enjoy and can focus on - music, bike ride, go for a walk, meditation etc.
5.  Scent Therapy - Lavender can have a calming effect on people.
6.  Exercising 3-4 times a week, exercise will emit endorphins which is a natural tranquilizer.
7.  Hot Bath with Epsom Salt can be relaxing.
8.  Try and stay away from caffeine and sugar. Eat healthy. Drink lots of water.

Start doing things you like socially, maybe even volunteer works.  Keep busy.  
If things get worse see you doctor.

[MYoungAtHeart]

From what I read at your 2 posts here, you are trying to control something that can not be controlled, and those things are expecially what other people are doing with their lives while you were in relationship with them and now that you are not in relationship with them...

The best advice I can give a person in this case is to be glad that these people are out of your close personal life..  and to go on and have the best life you can by seeking therapy or group therapy which in many cases is on a sliding scale according to your income...

Best wishes to you

M