I changed an I cant get the old me back

[Used]

So I gues it started about 2 years ago, Some how I'm not sure how I just stopped caring an trying. 2 years ago I was in great shape. Great job great girls great body always had a ton of energy. Then it all just changed, I cant make my self do any thing now. I dont work out. I dont try to meet girls,I cant find a steady job an to be honest I am not sure if I am even trying very hard.  I really dont like this new person but I cant seem to get the old me back.

[mammo]

You sound depressed.  Did something happen prior to the time you started feeling this way?  You need to see a psychiatrist to sort out what is going on, and get back to the old you!

[Used]

I split it a girl friend but I dont think thats it. Any chnace you can give me some advise on how to go about finding some one to talk to

[whodunnit]

Hi there,

You haven't given us a lot to work with really. You describe one symptom of depression, but a biggie. That is lack of motivation, loss of enjoyment, loss of concentration. Without those things going on we really don't have a lot do we?

I wouldn't say it's depression but it could well be getting close. How to find someone to talk to? Simply go see your local doc and ask to be referred for counselling. Mind you, counselling can be less than helpful if you don't have any idea what's going on. SO perhaps you could follow Mammo's lead and think about what happend 2 years ago and try to see what else has changed. If you just go to counselling and say what you have above they'll probably look at you and say "And...."

Best of luck mate.

[p527]

Have you had your thyroid checked?  Allit takes is a blood test.  It really can make a big difference.

Good luck

[Used]

talking to some one is pretty scary idea to me. I think at this point I'm gonna have to tho. thanks for the help. I'll talk to my doctor

[cheeky17130]

How do you get over depression when you recognise why you are depressed, but are trapped in a Country that you do not have any future in with a partner that is not willing to care about your needs and those of your son.
How can you get out of depression when you cannot access any support, let alone any English speaking persons to discuss your feelings with.

[lifesux_thenyoudie]

We change all the time. Once I changed so much it was a life crises.
There is noone in the world that knows you better than yourself. Keep a journal, write yourself a letter, if you have family talk to them. I once heard we have 2 hands - one for asking for help and one for helping others.
Work is important, you say you are unemployed. Work exercises skills and gives us meaning. Volunteer if you can - go to the palliative care ward of a hospice take them some newspapers to read - that'll cheer you up and make you realise how lucky you are.
Get a hobby - you know better than me its hard to exercise - no pain no gain - right?
You could be a personal trainer - whatever you want. If you talk to the doctor tell him a lot more than what you did in your post.

[lifesux_thenyoudie]

I once read the symptoms of depression being like a chained and whipped dog. The dog just gives up. This sounds like you " Trapped without a future."  without support from your partner or the medical community.

I once read the best cure for demoralisation is daring. You need to do something. There aint no fairy godmother in this story. If your partner wont take care of you - find one that will.

If you are in a foreign country find a doctor that speaks english. Its one of the most popular languages in the world you know. Do it. Do it for yourself - your son - for all the abused woman out there. Just do it

Contact your local embassy. They have people that speak both languages. Go home for a rest, holiday, respite. Get in touch with who you are and what you stand for. Go on be really cheeky.......and do it