I'm not allowed to see my mates because they do drugs.

[Frodowxm]

I'm 17 years old and am really depressed. My mates around where I live do drugs and my parents don't want me to be anywhere near them. About 2 years ago they stopped me from seeing them and I have just been in the house doing nothing every day which has been getting me really depressed. I understand that they don't want me to be doing drugs because they don't want me getting into any problems. However, I don't want to do drugs because I know what the consequences are. All I want to do is be with my mates when they aren't doing drugs so that I can enjoy myself and get out of the house. This has left me in an awkward situation because I don't want to fall out with my parents by being with my mates but I want to hang around with my mates and get out. Depression is also affecting my college work because work is the last thing I want to do when i'm depressed. Every time I try to talk to my parent's about wanting to be with my mates they just start arguing with me because they don't want me to be with them when they are doing drugs. On a few occasions I have completely lost control of my anger towards my parents and I feel I am out of control. My anger seems to build over a long period of time and then comes out all at once as if i'm not myself.

[Emily98]

I've had the same problem with my perants im not allowed to see me bestfriend. just keep on the good side of your mum and dad they cant ban you from seeing them forever its your life. Also see if they can come round to your house.

[mammo]

I agree that your parents are only trying to keep you drug free because they love you and care what kind of man you become.  But I would try talking to them and explaining that you do not have any desire to do drugs and are only a year away from being able to make your own decisions......and this is a good way for you to show them that you can be responsible and make the right choices.  They have to show some faith and trust in you, and you have to show them they can.  Turning 18 won't magically make you responsible and not hang out with others who do drugs.  It's time for you to start making some of your own choices while knowing the consequences should you make the wrong one.  Then act appropriately, let your parents know that it's time they trust in how well they've raised you and will not follow in the steps of your friends.  There are always going to be something illegal around, and alcohol is no different, ask them to give you the opportunity to prove that you are ready to be a responsible young man.  You sound reasonable, but be aware that people judge you by the company you keep, and never feel like you have to use drugs or drink alcohol to fit in.....if you do....you are hanging out with the wrong people. I hope this helps and wish you all the best.

[RainLover71]

Find some friends that don't do drugs and you will be better off.Drugs cause many problems and are the route of all things evil.I heard of a story where a iv drug user waited for his mum to go on holidays and sold all the contents in her house while she was away,what a wonderful son,just to get his next fix,also weed has been known to make people violent and moody.It's an unhealthy lifestyle that you don't need to be a part of.I think your parents are right and love you and want what is best for you.

[tschock]

Ask your folks if these friends can come over to your place.
That way you both win. You can see your mates, and they can supervise the action.
Perhaps you could start with having them over in the yard, and then progress to bringing them into the house.

I understand why your parents are concerned...I would hate to see my kids start doing drugs too...BUT...if you're kids are going to do drugs, they're going to do them.
My 3 oldest have been offered several times in the past, but like you, they won't do them...because they are afraid of what will happen.
There are a few kids that I don't want in my home, but only because they break things, steal from us, or try to convince the kids to do illegal things...but my kids ( so far ) are smart enough to tell these friends of theirs that there are limits...and anyone who breaks my rules is out...and stays out.
I don't like my sons hanging out with drug users either, BUT I started off doing what I suggested at the top of this post...I let them come over to our house, and I watched them. After awhile I knew who to trust, and who not to trust. I knew which kids would try and  pressure mine into doing "bad things" and which kids only did the drugs because the others did.
After awhile, the bad ones were left behind...the others joined with my son and left the bad ones out of the group...on their own. I didn't have to tell any of them to get rid of the bad ones...they just knew, and proved that they were responsible.

Try bringing this conversation up with your parents. Ask them in an adult like manor...don't yell or scream, this will only make them stick with their original idea.
Tell them the truth. Tell them you are depressed because you have nothing other than computer games ( Runescape, WoW, etc ) to keep you entertained. Tell them you yearn for human companionship, and that this is leading to your low grades.
Ask them if you could possibly have one or two friends come over...promise them that if drugs come into the conversation at any time that you personally will see to it that they leave.
Ask them to give you a chance to prove to them that you are more responsible than your friends.
Give your folks permission to choose which ones are allowed into the house. Tell them that these friends will only come over when your folks are home.
If they give you the chance great. If not, then wait awhile and try again in a different manor.
Just don't blow it if they do give you the chance...there will be no second chances.
Tell your friends to leave the dope at home, and not to talk about that kind of thing around your folks. If these people really are your friends, then they will respect that...if not...lose them quickly.
You could also try to find new friends. I know your folks have probably already told you that, and I know it's a hard thing to do, but it may be your only choice.
Ask your folks to take you to the doctor as well. There are many treatments to help with depression. If you ask them to take you they will see that you are at least showing responsibility for your own well-being.

Good luck, and keep us posted.