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1336515 tn?1285008143

Just cant stop feeling sorry for myself.....

I'm wondering if I should go to a doctor, or if I should just keep toughing this out. Since I was 14 I've had almost monthly bouts of "depression" (more like just feeling sorry for myself that I'm not spoiled like all my friends). But it's getting so hard to ignor. Every time I feel sorry for myself I remind myself of everything I have and how much better off I am than some people. I am very gratefull for my life, I just want more out of it, and I find it so hard to get over the fact that I can't. I have had several steady healthy relationships, but none that I could rely on for financiall support, which makes it hard to go to school, or own a house, or even save enough to get my hair done. I excersize regularly, and eat healthy, which does help, but I cant shake this feeling of....kindof like despare, like, there really is no point to anything. I dont have thoughts of suicide, and I've never contemplated hurting myself but I still feel that there is no one I can ever depend on, and nothing I do is good enough. My mother had severe depression as long as I could remember and I dont know if Its a genetic thing making me feel this way or a psychological thing. I do NOT want to take pills for this. I cant afford a therapist. Should I speak to a doctor? Or just keep on forcing myself to be gratefull everyday?
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If you can't afford therapy and don't want to go on medications (I never chose to take meds either), I recommend self-help books.  They seem like a crock of ****, but some of them are good.  I suggest cognitive behavioral therapy books.  2 of the ones I enjoy are Learned Optimism and The Feeling Good Handbook.  It's not as expensive as therapy or medication, and it gives you something to do for those times when you just feel like staying in and avoiding people.  best of luck
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1110049 tn?1409402144
I am sorry, but I agree with hopefaith.  Yes we can battle depression, but it is hard without medication.  I can understand you not wanting to go down that road, but have no advice.

You can speak to a doctor, and take their advice.  Keep going, make yourself do a little each day.  However rich, however much you love and are loved, depression does not discriminate.  Yes I am grateful for what, aand who I have, but without medication I cannot function, or live a "normal" life.  I have tried and failed.

We are all different, and I do hope you find the answer.  There is so much written about self help, diet, exercise, etc.  You could try it all, and still be depressed.  See what other people here say about tackling depressio9n without medication.

Good luck, and keep us informed.


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1455536 tn?1285335680
Hi Pixiepie, my mum also had severe depression which has been passed onto me. I've been battling depression for 20+ years now, so I know the symptoms and you've described a few of them; feeling despair, feeling there is no point to anything. These are classic symptoms of depression and tie that together with a family history of depression and chances are pretty high that you have it. It's not your fault, it's not your mums fault. If you do have it, it's not something you can just shake off with positive thinking, although anything positive that you do is great! I can understand you not wanting to go on medication, none of us really "want" to be on it. But depression is an illness, a chemical imbalance in the brain, that can often be rebalanced with the right medication. It's helped me to live a 'normal' life. A good GP could really help you.   Best of luck
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If you want to get better, then you should do something, a regular doctor can only prescribe medication, or refer you to another physician who can.  If you really don't want drugs then i recommend stress reduction techniques like meditation and yoga.  They really work, but you must be committed and stay with them.
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Just take it day by day. Set smaller goals that you can accomplish more efficiently. Don't rush yourself or over stress yourself over things you have no control over. No magic pills exist for inner sadness.
Denisse
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