Medications altering rational behaviour and sex drive?

[pamieann]

My boyfriend of 8 months has been having serious problems with fidelity. He doesn't cheat per say but actively seeks women to have sex with and continues sexual conversations behind my back and refuses to be honest with me. This issue has only occurred as of late now that our relationship has become more serious. In our 8 months he has cheated once and had slight issues with boundaries. I am wondering if the stress of a new job, living back with his parents, not having money to pay bills and general worries men have are adding up to the point where this fascination is uncontainable. He is taking Dextroamphtamine sulfate (10mg) to help stabilize his mood and concentration i believe. Could this drug be affecting his sex drive to a point where I’m not enough? Could this just be an emotion phase of not wanting to commit?

[ILADVOCATE]

That medication is a stimulant and it could push someone into mania which causes a lack of judgment. He should speak to his psychiatrist about that and let them know what is going on and it would be best to encourage him to do that. The relationship issue is another aspect but that may be one cause.

[mammo]

I think your boyfriend has some deep seeded issues regarding women and sex.  He does need psychiatric help.  I know it's diffuclt to realize, but he is cheating on you, and I don't think I would be involved with this man, one woman will never be enough for him.  The drugs he is taking normally hampers the sex drive, I've never heard of the opposite happening.  Plus, keep in mind that life is always full of stress and if this is how he handles it...don't you deserve more out of a man?  Fidelity is not asking for too much,  with men like this, it will never happen.  I have a girlfriend who has been in therapy for the same problem for over 20 years, still she does this and cannot maintain a long term relationship.  

[whodunnit]

Hi there,

This drug is usually prescribed for ADD. Read here :

http://www.rxlist.com/dexedrine-drug.htm

for side effects. You'll note the central nervous system is stimulated but lower down on the page you'll see it actually causes impotence.

You say he doesn't cheat per se but later you say he has cheated. It's pretty clear that he is cheating really. It has nothing to do with job stress etc. He wants to play around, it's that simple. What causes that drive does not matter as it is part of him. You must decide if you will tolerate it or not.