I am a 32 year old mother of four children. I have been married for almost 10 years. My husband had always been wonderful to me, like other married couples we had our highs and lowes ( normal arguments, oldest problem child, finances)but he is or was always great. During the time I have been married I have suffered from severe depression but over the last 5 years it has gotten much worse. We relocated to Arizona from North Carolina in November of 2003 and a yrear later I had a nervouse breakdown and have not been the same ever since. After I had my breakdown my family talked me into to moving back to North Carolina leaving my husband in Arizona, they had me tell him that I needed to get well there, but I did not tell him that I was not coming back. I was so confused I did not know what to do. He tried to talk me into staying and going into a hospital but I left. After staying there until June I desided that my family was wrong and I told them I was going back to my husband. None of them agreed with my desision and tried to talk me out of going back, but I did anyway.
After moving back things went good for a long time, I was on Prozac at the time. After a year or so I started going through spells having severe mood swings, suffer from extreme pain, and have muscle control problems and would drink to help the pain. He took me to Doctors and speacialist every where and they never found anything wrong. I was abused as a child but can’t remember what happened my memories are there, but hard to recall almost like a dream. I have had some thoughts of suicide since I was a child. But in February of 2008 just before my youngest daughter’s birthday I tried to kill myself by taking 25 Lorazepam. Sometime during that day I called a friend and they got a hold of my husband and he called 911 and a neighbor. I have been in counseling for a long time and have been on Lorazepam, Fluoxtine, Hydroxzine and other medication before. He was there for me after I tried to kill myself and supported me all the time. But I could not seem to get myself back into reality. I enrolled in online college classes but could not stay focused after my first block and quit. Our sex life stopped and he would try to talk to me about what was wrong but I could not figure it out. I fought anger a lot of the time and could not deal with my emotions.
In October of 2008 we moved to North Carolina because of financial problems. My husband hated the idea of moving to North Carolina and did not want to come but we talked about it and because my family had a free house for us to live in. We were going to move to Georgia where my younger sister lives but we did not have the money at the time. We were going to work and save the money to move there as soon as we could but everything fell apart just as soon as we got here. He tried to find a job with a friend that worked at a local bank but they were not hiring. I told my family that he had gotten the job anyway and we were very angry at each other about that, but it was the only way I could think to get us some time to find other jobs, because my mother was paying for everything. He went along with it but was not happy about it. I started having muscle cramps and burning headaches like my head was on fire. There were times that I do not remember things I do or say, I took myself off all my medication last summer and felt better for a while, but I still drink to ease the pain. I do not think I am crazy but I misunderstand a lot of things. My family has a history of physical abuse, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, depression and bi polar problems.
Recently my husband took my two younger children ( biological) because he said I talked to him about suicide after I had some shots of vodka.I told him that I did not remember saying anything about saying or talking about suicide, but he says I did. He stayed gone with my children for 2 days and did not tell me where they were at. I did talk to my children but he would not tell me where they were at. He and I talked one night when he was gone for a long time. He told me he did not know what to do and was worried about me trying to kill myself again because the first time I tried it my youngest daughter was in her crib. He ask me if we could get family counseling ( marriage, children, for all of us) and I told him yes. I told him that I was not thinking about suicide so he brought them back.
I was very angry at him for taking them from me. After he came back my family helped me into getiing a emergency custody order for my children But I really do not know what I said to my husband the night he said I talked about suicide. I do forget things when I drink and have problems with my memory some of the time. He went back to Arizona and filed for divorce and now we are in a custody trial here and there. I do not know if I made a mistake by getting the custody against my husband and not getting counseling. Most of my family keeps pushing me to do this. I find myself crying at different times and during the night, loosing control of my body, feeling depressed, having mood swings, extreme anger and memory problems. my husband talks to my children but doesn’t talk to me at all unless its to setup visits. I think he has made up his mind that my problem is mental. I still love him but I am very angry at him and can’t trust him. I do not know if I lied to him when I left him the first time because I was very sick, or if I lied to him here about talking about suicide. Am I this way because I took myself off my medication. Is my depression causing me to be dependant on other people like my family. Am I wrong, should I talk to my husband and try to work things out. This has been the most tramatic experience of my life and I am desperate because I am afraid that my husband is going to get custody of my children because of my past. Should I go and see a Doctor and get back on medication?