I don't think you need an antidepressant at all -- you need a psychologist to talk this out. I wouldn't be sure you're "depressed," though you are distressed because you've given this other person too much power over how you feel. That's what you need to look into, not medicate yourself into pacification.
It sounds like your basic question is what anti-depressant is best for you - and really, that's a discussion to have with your doctor.
It was a struggle to decipher Your message. I suggest You might get better/more response if You drop the 'text talk'
Regards,
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