No where to turn

[SoCalRoar]

I Have no one to talk to about my feelings. I have a 31yr. old stepson living with us and he has stolen my wife away. I don't even want to work any more, I lost the only job that I ever really enjoyed going to, a year ago and ever since he moved back in 3 yrs. ago. I really don't enjoy anything in my life. My wife is constantly asking him for advice and not me. She tells me that their just close and I shouldn't think anything of it. I don't want to complain, I don't like my life at all. I want out and I don't know what to do. I want to be happy and loved but I'm not. I feel I am just going from 1 day to another with motivation. What do I do?

[ClickWeb]

Well, first of all we (my wife and I) feel for you.  From an outside perspective, and from what I'm hearing, you're right in your feelings.  A marriage is a relationship between two people who are one, and that is where all the decisions should be made.  If you're like me (and most males), you probably have your own control, pride, and/or insecurity issues that are getting the best of you.  That doesn't help the situation.

I would lay it all out for your wife, as a friend asking a friend, and see what she says.  You guys may need counseling, so you should both be prepared for that (and willing).

In my own opinion, I would take steps to boot the adult stepson, who should be outta there on his own.  I don;t know the whole story on that, so take this or leave it.  I would have given him 3 weeks, not 3 years.  Either way, this is not probably not helpful because I don't think he is really your issue.

I would chat with a doctor, stay busy, and try to do healthier things.  A lot of what we feel is because of what we put in and do with (or don;t do - as in excercise) our bodies.  

Good luck, anyway.  I'm sure others will have more helpful advice for you...

[JohnnyBeGood]

I advice you ... " You should listen yourself more times, looking inside what could be changed and what could be done... I´m Sure you´ll find a Way" its called  Self - knowledge, and can be "recognized"... it take time, but you´re already doing.. Good luck my friend, Bye

[JohnnyBeGood]

Writing can help a lot!!!