Pregnant, Confused, Alone with a Cheater?

I am almost 5mos pregnant and very stressed.  I feel like my husband has changed for the worse.  We moved away from all of our family to live our dreams in the wild west.  I love it out here but miss my family.  I caught my husband talking to and ex about 6mos ago.  They were arranging a meeting to have sex when he went back east.  He told me it was just to mess with her and a revenge plot to ditch her.  He told me he love me and would never talk to her again.  A few days ago I found out they have been texting.  My husband is becoming irrational saying he loves me and I make a big deal out it.  He is yelling at me, never wants to spend time with me, calling me names, and saying I am causing it.  I have been diagnosed and have had a long history of mental health disorders.  I just need someone to talk too.  I love this man, we were awesome, I want this family.  I cant tell my family otherwise they would instanly write him off.  I dont have any money to talk to a therapist or go to couple counseling. I need advice or an ear! This is suppose to be a happy time!

[mammo]

This is a very difficult situation.  It's obvious that he still cares for his ex, and is trying to turn it around to blame his actions on you.  You have to ask yourself why you would still want this man?  Don't you and your baby deserve better?  In your own words "we WERE awesome."  Yes, this is supposed to be the happiest time for you, but he is making sure it isn't.  He may be telling his ex that once the baby is born he will leave.  He's lying to you and still seeing her and talking to her, don't stand for this.  If I were you I'd start stashing money, and planning my leaving him.  I would stay until the baby is born and you are able to leave, even if it means going to family, you need to get away from him.  I will tell you this and it's from experience!!  I had a husband just like him, cheated on me when our baby was 6 months old.  I forgave him, but with time fell out of love with him and no longer cared where he went or what he did.  This is when he asked me why I no longer questioned him about things, and I have to say I hadn't even noticed it myself!  I said "because I don't care any more."  From that day forward he was the best husband??? It's like so long as I was chasing him to stay home, and to stop running around, the more he pulled away, but once he saw I didn't care, he realized he was losing me, and changed his ways.  But I was done and I left with my 3 babies ages 4 and under.  What I'm saying (if you want to try and save the marriage) is until the time comes where you are able to leave, let him be, ask no questions, pretend you don't care, always being nice.  It will give him plenty to think about and it may make him realize that he may be losing you, due to your lack of concern.  Right now he is so sure of you that he doesn't worry, but if you pretend to stop caring he will notice.  This will do two things.  It will stop you from being constantly stressed while pregnant, and it may save your marriage.  He wants what he can't have and right now it's his ex.  But if all of a sudden you act as if you don't care, he will start thinking about this and the baby.  Never be sarcastic or get into a conversation about your actions or he will know it's an act.  He is going to see his ex no matter how much you spy, fight and argue, but if all this stops due to your actions...ummm he'll wonder why!  Just make sure you are saving money in case he doesn't stop and you need to leave.  You're fortunate that you have family that will support you in this.  You and your child deserve better, don't settle for a man who can't stop chasing his ex.  Feel free to contact me to talk or just vent.  I know how much this hurts, and on top of being pregnant, it's just sad.  Let us help you through this.  Take care....