Someone please help. Will I ever find that special guy?

[Briaa]

I know I am too young to worry about this, I am a 15 year old girl, but this bothers me sooooo much. I'm worried I will never find that extremely modest guy, and I know I sound so delusional. I'm starting to feel really upset about how guys are and I feel it is unfair that girls are so much sweeter yet the guys are always thinking about other girls, cheating, checking out other women when they're dating or married to someone it just doesn't seem right to me and I know it's human nature for a guy to do those things but it hurts me sooo much. I wouldn't do any of those things when I'm with someone I care for deeply. I'm capable of being committed to a guy and I just want a really wonderful guy but there is no such thing as guys that I'm looking for. I'm not looking for the right guy right now, of course not. I'm only a teenager but in the future I really want to be in a serious, intimate relationship with a guy that has a good heart. I'm fine if a guy looks at other women because it's normal I know, it's only human nature but staring at them would definitely bother me. It's normal to admire beautiful things but it hurts me to know that a lot of guys will just stare and stare at a girl especially in front of their girlfriend. I've gotta say, I'm a very sensitive person not to mention very obsessive I've been pondering on this for weeks and I'm so stressed about it. I hear guys are "visual" and just HAVE to check out other women and girls are "emotional" so they are more faithful. I am just so confused. Why is life like this? Will I ever find someone (a guy) that relates to me and loves me fully, is honest with me and wouldn't check out other women.. well of course I don't mind if he's looking, taking a glance but I want someone who prefers me over all the girls in the world even if I'm not the hottest, most perfect girl in the world. Do guys even go for a girls personality? Do they even care? Or are all men into a girls features and want sex all the time, looking at porn just because his spouse or significant other isn't giving him any all the time? I know this is very long but I really need an answer. I need the truth. I know I sound like a freak, I just want to find a good soul mate one day, someone who is loving and understanding, feels the same way I do, but nowadays all guys or at least most of them are soo horrible and I hate hearing my mom cry about how her boyfriend treats her. It depresses me and I cannot get this off my mind. Will I ever find an extremely loyal boyfriend? Is it possible that there are guys out there that don't check out other women when they're with somebody? I have to say I am okay looking, friends have told me I am beautiful though I've always wanted to be perfect for a guy. I've always wanted someone who considers me his perfect girl, a special girl, and maybe even the most beautiful which of course is not true but I want to be a guys one and only.... I know that sounds like too much to ask for but are there any guys out there like that? Gawsh I know I keep asking the same stupid question over and over again but like I said I am obsessive. I know there are so many beautiful, gorgeous women out there who are waaaayyy better than me and it hurts me that guys are programmed a certain way and women are so much more considerate. Are there any passionate guys out there that have emotions and stay committed to a certain special person or am I just unlucky? I don't know what to do, what to think, all this negative stuff that people say is true about males is just making me sick and weak, I am a coward sometimes especially right now and I'm very emotional it's not even funny. Heck, I even cry about this. I want to be with the right person that I've always wanted but like they all say, nobodies perfect but I don't want to give up hope even though it always comes to me that guys are guys, they will do these things no matter what, there is no such thing as a wonderful, faithful guy and that girls just have to except the fact that guys have a higher sex drive than girls so of course they're going to do these things, there's nothing we can do about it and I know there are also girls who check out guys while they're with someone but I'm not one of them. I'm a good person, I used to believe in love and beautiful things that associate with it but since I've figured out how guys really are, those thoughts and feelings have changed. I'm very modest, considerate, I would never judge someone no matter what, regardless of who they are, what they do and I don't mean to judge men on their bad aspects but it does certainly hurt me. Sorry if I wrote too much I just don't know what to do, I need good advice, I need someone to talk to about this, someone who will really listen. I have very minor faith that there is any guy out there that has all those good aspects in one package that I am looking for. I don't go for a guys appearance btw, I go for their personality, looks do not matter much to me, it's their personality that makes them the most handsome guy in the world to me.

[inlovex3]

there is a perfect guy out there for everyone, im 19 andi found my perfect guy when i was 17 out of nowhere. wheni say perfect i mean he doesnt even think of looking at other girls. 1000% commitment. i messed up the relationship however because i didnt realize just how perfect he actually is, how rare it is to have someone love you the way he loved me, we're going through rough times now because of me but the advice i can give you is keep your head up, you'll find him, just make sure to never let him go, ever.

[j17c27]

Well actually 2 years ago when I was 15 I found the perfect guy.  We were best friends and he was sweet and just absolutly adored me.  I have depression, anxiety, im suicidal, dont have the nicest family, dont have money, etc i could go on and on and on about how imperfect I am.  But all of that did not matter to him, he just loved me.  Of course, no one is perfect.  Actually one time we had a "Mr.Shepaug" which was like a beauty pagent for guys at our school.  My boyfriend was in it and during the Q&A he got asked "who is the perfect woman of your dreams and why?" He answered "Well, I'd have to say Jess...but she is better than the girl of my dreams..she's real" and even though i just love that story cause its the cutest thing ever haha it just shows guys arent looking for you to be perfect.  and if they are, they arent worth it becuase you dont want to spend the rest of your life pretending to be someone you arent.  Anyways, my point is all guys arent the stereotypical immature jackass's people portray them as.  I have no doubt that one day you will meet this amazing guy who will treat you well.  There are jerks out there, but I guess the point in all the high school dating and being young is figureing out who works best (and worse) with you and figuring out what you want and need in a guy.  
So dont worry about it! There are PLENTY very adoring, loving, caring guys that would do anything for you.  You just have to find the right one.

[Lucy1113]

First of all, you need to just calm down and take a deep breath! You are young and have so much time for all of this to happen. I'm about to be 20 years old and i have yet to find the perfect guy! I have dated and there have been a few guys that i've cared for so much! I even fell in love with one. Turns out we weren't right for each other, but thats the point of dating right? Searching for mister right until you find him; weeding out the ones that aren't absolutely perfect for you?
I know exactly how you feel thinking that there are no good men and thinking that the only important thing to them is sex. This is somewhat true. but i promise you there are plenty of good ones out there. If you just relax and be yourself and just enjoy life you will find a guy that appreciates you for who you are. He won't even think about looking at other women cause he'll only want you. Just focus on loving yourself before you look for anyone else.
At 15, boys can be unbelievably immature! Girls mature much faster. But you are so young; I didn't have my first "boyfriend" until i was 17 and i dont feel any loss! Just do your thing, and don't settle for any guy who doesn't treat you like a princess (I wish i took my own advice with that haha).
happy holidays:)