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I've been suffering from depression for a little more than 5 years, its just been getting worse. It seems like nothing can go right. I just bought a brand new car in February and even that didnt change anything. Gave me a little high for a few weeks then i got hit by a semi driver not looking when he merged into my lane then said it was my fault, and his company backed him so I had to pay for the damages. after that it just went back to where I was, even a little worse. I'm wondering if theres anything I can do to change my situation easily. I'm a little lost.
Hi Patient !
I would like to give you a few suggestions, and it's entirely up to you what you might choose to do. But depression has been riding along with my life for a long time. First, let me tell you when you first ran into depression, I believe it had to do with not quite finishing school. Therefore, if you haven't already, get your GED. Then, you see, you can either find a job at your local job bank or employment security commission. OR, you can go to community college for a year or two, and then get a BA or BS at one of the state colleges. This will lead to a high-paying job of your choosing!
Now, I feel your sensitive side as relates to your son that no one told you about and the other one with the abortion. It is wise in many ways to use protection, you know, Trojans or whatever you like. But really, the most sensible thing to do is wait until you are engaged to someone. You GOT to really know the character of the person you are going to be intimate with. Just whatever limits you and that works.
I might add one more small item, which helps a person live well, and that's to exercise regularly, stay hydrated in the daytime, eat good foods along with bad foods! Also, get into lessons to learn how to do something very well. These things include lessons on painting and art stuff, a teacher for playing the guitar, join a salsa learning class, try tennis, there's a long list of "hobbies," in library books, in the nonfiction section. Even if you just did one of the things in this paragraph, it will help you feel stronger, will help pass the time.
As I said in the beginning, these are just some ideas of how to help you come out of this depression. If after trying these tips and you still feel like hell, then time to go to a psych group and get perhaps something like Zoloft or whatever antidepressant drug they recommend, which you may have to try a couple, and hopefully your depression will lift... you can also talk to a counselor about all your problems, and they can give you more lifestyle stuff to help you or whatever their plans are, time needed is probably just a month (2x or 3x a week).
Keep us posted! We're all rooting for you! Gail
I would like to give you a few suggestions, and it's entirely up to you what you might choose to do. But depression has been riding along with my life for a long time. First, let me tell you when you first ran into depression, I believe it had to do with not quite finishing school. Therefore, if you haven't already, get your GED. Then, you see, you can either find a job at your local job bank or employment security commission. OR, you can go to community college for a year or two, and then get a BA or BS at one of the state colleges. This will lead to a high-paying job of your choosing!
Now, I feel your sensitive side as relates to your son that no one told you about and the other one with the abortion. It is wise in many ways to use protection, you know, Trojans or whatever you like. But really, the most sensible thing to do is wait until you are engaged to someone. You GOT to really know the character of the person you are going to be intimate with. Just whatever limits you and that works.
I might add one more small item, which helps a person live well, and that's to exercise regularly, stay hydrated in the daytime, eat good foods along with bad foods! Also, get into lessons to learn how to do something very well. These things include lessons on painting and art stuff, a teacher for playing the guitar, join a salsa learning class, try tennis, there's a long list of "hobbies," in library books, in the nonfiction section. Even if you just did one of the things in this paragraph, it will help you feel stronger, will help pass the time.
As I said in the beginning, these are just some ideas of how to help you come out of this depression. If after trying these tips and you still feel like hell, then time to go to a psych group and get perhaps something like Zoloft or whatever antidepressant drug they recommend, which you may have to try a couple, and hopefully your depression will lift... you can also talk to a counselor about all your problems, and they can give you more lifestyle stuff to help you or whatever their plans are, time needed is probably just a month (2x or 3x a week).
Keep us posted! We're all rooting for you! Gail
Thank you for your insight and the links. There is always going to be someone against and for pharmaceuticals and both people are right. There is a reason why you were put on them and they likely helped you in some way so that is something that you have to accept. We use the words "side effect" when we talk about medicince but no matter what you do in life there are going to be "side effects". We could also call side effects these words:
Consequences
benefits
Punishments
rewards
And so on
I know this is a little deeper than this conversation was likely intended but it may give some thought.
Consequences
benefits
Punishments
rewards
And so on
I know this is a little deeper than this conversation was likely intended but it may give some thought.
Thank you for the suggestions. And yeah, I get what youre saying about the social network and all that. I've recently tried to get back in contact from the positive people I've been friends with from over the course of my life and finding time to hang out with them. I feel like if I'm around people I knew before i felt this way, it may trigger the old me inside my head, the me who was outgoing and tried to get stuff done instead of sitting inside and feeling sorry. I used to be the complete opposite of what I am today, thats what I'm trying to get back to.
You have a good attitude towards change and conquering your demons. That will serve you well as depression is one of the hardest things in this world to defeat. It knows you and it ilikes to stick around so you have to master yourself through various educational patterns in order to rid yourself of it. You have already figured out that a sober mind is more powerful than a distorted one. I am neither for or against the use of drugs in a mind that is stable because there is no problems there yet but in a mind like the one I used to have and the one that you have now sticking to a trict adherence to mederation on all things in your life will quicker bring you to a state of equilibrium.
There are things that will aid you in the beginning like journaling and rebuilding a social network. Being on here counts as both. I am not on here always so it is good to make other connections but the good thing about this place is you can look back at things you have written before and see how you change, but I also recommend keeping a daily journal that you physically write in. You will get a lot of feedback from different people here, some good and some not so good. Just keep an open mind, a willing heart, and take what you need leaving the rest. Welcome to Medhelp.
There are things that will aid you in the beginning like journaling and rebuilding a social network. Being on here counts as both. I am not on here always so it is good to make other connections but the good thing about this place is you can look back at things you have written before and see how you change, but I also recommend keeping a daily journal that you physically write in. You will get a lot of feedback from different people here, some good and some not so good. Just keep an open mind, a willing heart, and take what you need leaving the rest. Welcome to Medhelp.
You make alot of sense. And yes, i have more than a little experience with illegal narcotics. I was a drug addict from age 14 to about 4 days ago when i decided to put them aside, so about 8 years of drug addiction. I did just about everything from weed to crack to pharmasuticals. You're also right in the fact they dont really work for that. Sure, they give you a little relief. But it just helps you to not face the problems right in front of you, which is what I'm learning.
The depression started shortly after i got expelled from high school for selling drugs on the property and served a little jail time/probation. After that i lost the girl i was with at the time, I didn't see my friends much and got in with a different crowd. They later progressed when I found out I had a son with a girl who never told me, I found out through mutual friends when he was 3, still haven't seen or heard the girl since. My dad left when I was 4 and I can remember that night like it was last night, so I chose to not force myself into his life since it may do more harm than good to him.
After that, I kinda fell off from society for about a year then attempted to find my way back into it with a new girl, whom got pregnant and aborted it without having the conversation with me (this hurt worse than anything before that).
I've been through alot more ******** situations I won't bore you with, I know these are all reasons that feed my depression and keep it alive. Since i got off the drugs, I figured this is the best possible time to face all this **** and try to overcome this feeling.
Your help is much appreciated.
The depression started shortly after i got expelled from high school for selling drugs on the property and served a little jail time/probation. After that i lost the girl i was with at the time, I didn't see my friends much and got in with a different crowd. They later progressed when I found out I had a son with a girl who never told me, I found out through mutual friends when he was 3, still haven't seen or heard the girl since. My dad left when I was 4 and I can remember that night like it was last night, so I chose to not force myself into his life since it may do more harm than good to him.
After that, I kinda fell off from society for about a year then attempted to find my way back into it with a new girl, whom got pregnant and aborted it without having the conversation with me (this hurt worse than anything before that).
I've been through alot more ******** situations I won't bore you with, I know these are all reasons that feed my depression and keep it alive. Since i got off the drugs, I figured this is the best possible time to face all this **** and try to overcome this feeling.
Your help is much appreciated.
Your situation is not uncommon. I can understand how the car improved your mood for a while and how the loss of it made things worse.
You may know this but material things have a "happiness half-life" that goes away after a while anyway. The problems you had before you bought the vehicle were not fixed by the vehicle, they were just suppressed. A famous quote is:
unresolved problems do not go away, they worsen.
Unfortunately this is true. When you say "easily" I can only tell you one thing that does that and it is something you want to stay away from although you may already have experience with it....drugs. I am of course speaking of the illegal drugs that are a "quick fix" but they do not really fix anything.
On the other hand there are legal drugs that you might take to aid in your struggle but even those do not fix anything. They just take the edge off so you can do the work.
I can try to help but I need to know a little more about when your troubles started and what you support you have or had in our life.
There is no easy way to do this. If you can accept that then you can move to the next phase... the healing.
You may know this but material things have a "happiness half-life" that goes away after a while anyway. The problems you had before you bought the vehicle were not fixed by the vehicle, they were just suppressed. A famous quote is:
unresolved problems do not go away, they worsen.
Unfortunately this is true. When you say "easily" I can only tell you one thing that does that and it is something you want to stay away from although you may already have experience with it....drugs. I am of course speaking of the illegal drugs that are a "quick fix" but they do not really fix anything.
On the other hand there are legal drugs that you might take to aid in your struggle but even those do not fix anything. They just take the edge off so you can do the work.
I can try to help but I need to know a little more about when your troubles started and what you support you have or had in our life.
There is no easy way to do this. If you can accept that then you can move to the next phase... the healing.
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