What do I do?

I'm a teen struggling with depression...but I have no one to turn to for help. My parents wouldnt understand and I feel like no one cares about whether teens have depression or not. How can I feel better?

[joey1134]

Hi im joey ...well joey1134 and i would love to talk to you about depression . Many teens especialy undergo depresion and anxiety , when i tell my family i get things like your too young for that , or your not paying bills you have no reason. The first step to tackling depresionn is getting people around you that make you happy , especially someone who can keep you laughing ...maybe even turn on family guy. The next step is finding out why your depressed for me its because im always feeling sick and just want to die .....well it doesnt even have to be like that just anything. A really good helper is getting busy with activities , like sports clubs volenteer work ...friends just get your mind off things. Just remember that you have a long life in head of you that could be a chance for a more positive you !!!! ...and i just sounded like one of those infomercials lol

[Sierra225]

Hi,
Thank you so much.
My and my parents dont have a good relationship so I don't tell them much of anything. I've tried haveing people around that make me happy but that only lasts so long before they walk away. People walk in and out of my life so much. It hurts bc I have no trust anymore. I dont trust anyone. Im just always sad...always crying. I think about dying all the time. I just want to end all of this

[joey1134]

I feel your pain , in that case you might have to also try a better relationship with your parents ..im only saying this because one of the best ways of dealing with depression is talking about it with somone all out emotionally .....you may even consider your school guidence counciler ...but i know we think of dying , but thats not going to solve anything ..dying is just a way to run away from problems  .....maybe you might want to befriend other people and hit the reset button on not being able to trust anyone...i know what you mean but if you dont lower that i cant trust people guard no ones ever gonna get in to help you ...so i would try something new like those suggestions and see what happens ..its worth a shot  :)

[mammo]

I know you are feeling hopeless righ now, but know you're not alone. May I suggest you give your parents a chance to help?  They do love you, and once they recognize the magnitude of your problem, will take it seriously. As parents we don't want to belive our kids may be unhappy or depressed, it's denial as we feel we did something wrong along the way.  But they still love you, and just need to be made aware of how bad you feel.  If you cannot talk to them, put it in a letter and tell them exactly what you told us and ask them to please help you.  This may be the beginning of a better relationship between both of you also.  If this fails (I don't think it will) go to your school counselor and ask for help in getting your parents to recognize the problem, and be persistent with anyone you talk to.  If anyone tries to downplay how you feel, don't accept it, in a nice calm way tell them this is serious.  You've probably got good reason to not trust people, but there are a lot of trustworthy people around you.  By trusting one and then another, trusting will get easier. Dying is never the answer and may even be worse.  You can do this, I know you can.  Start with your parents and go from there, and again, don't allow them to not take you seriously, remain calm but keep talking until someone listens.  You've got to find your happiness and start living your life.  It will get better with every step, start working towards this. Also, start writing down how you feel, keep a journal.  It is amazing how much it helps to put our feelings down on paper, and in the process we can come to realize many things about ourselves. Take care....

[Sierra225]

I will defintely try to find help. All I want is someone to talk to. But I just didnt know who would understand, without judging me and making me think I'm crazy.  I would like to hit the reset button and trust people, but everytime I let my guard down, people stab me in the back, or use me, or find some way to destroy what little trust I have given them.

[Sierra225]

Thank you. I will attempt to communicate with my parents. But my mom is very quick to make judgements, and she doesnt listen at all. She only sees things her way, and no other way. Nor does she try to understand or accept what other people have to say. I'd love to have a close relationship with my mom like all the other girls I know, but its a difficult thing when your mom acts like she hates you, and it makes it hard to cope with all the emotional problems I'm dealing with.

[mammo]

You always have us to talk with, we don''t judge as we have been thru it.  We are always eager to listen, talk, share and support you, so please stay with us.  It sounds like your mom may have some issues of her own, and maybe by getting her attention you may also help her.  If she doesn't listen, put your feelings in a letter and leave it for her to read at a time she can concentrate.  Put on the top of the letter or envelope...Please take the time to read this for me, and truly think about it, I love and need you so much, especially now.  When you read something you are listening, and this may be the best way to get her attention.  I understand how you feel about not trusting people, but maybe you are too trusting, or  trusting the wrong people.  Regardless, this is a reflection on them...not you!  Unfortunately we do get hurt sometimes by trusting people, just try to learn from it, don't allow it to take hold of you and make you angry or mistrusting.  If someone betrays your trust, then that person was not worthy of your trust, just move on.  It takes time and experience to learn who to trust, and honestly if there is ever anything you want absolutely nobody to know, then dont tell anyone.  Because your friend who you trust, feels she can tell a friend she trusts, and so on. It doesn't make that person wrong, she just thought she could trust the person she told. Confusing I know.  But as you get older you find that people are more mature and if asked to keep something confidential will do so.  Keep talking to us, publicly or privately, we do care, and hopefully this will be a big breakthrough in gaining the relationship you want with your mom, and you feeling better.  Take care....

[Sierra225]

I called my mom at work today and told her I really needed to talk to her. Of course she blew it off, and told me she was busy, but i warned her it was serious and important and not something she wanted to hear. So hopefully my talk with her will be meaningful.

[joey1134]

Im very relieved to see that you are considering talking to your mom about it the women gave birth to you so im pretty sure what ever your feeling is something that she can understand if not then maybe she can get you a docters referal to like a therapist , or maybe just the school guidence counciler

[Sierra225]

so...just like i expected my mom didnt listen to anything i told her and she blew it off like it was nothing and told me all teenagers go through this..its part of life. Whatever.

[sick2006]

How old are you? I have had anxiety attacks and depression since i was in 6th grade and now i am 18. I never wanted to tell my parents because they already have enough stress in there life with me because of my medical problems. I have had periods where i am so physically sick that i want to fie. Nobody can figure out exactly what is wrong with me physically and that does not help. I feel like i am a burden on my family and friends. I am in a phase right now where i just want to die and the only thing that is preventing me from suicide right now is the affect it would have on the people left behind. I tried to kill myself about a year ago and failed. I ended up in a psych ward for a week on suicide watch. I would suggest that if your parents will not take it seriously try to call a therapist and tell the nurse you want to talk to a therapist and tell them what is going on and maybe they can help talk to your parents. You have to do what is best fro you even if they do not agree. Or there are the sucide help lines you could call. Just try to get help and trust that the Lord Jesus your savior will get you through. The only way i have any hope is through God!

if you want i can give you my email and we could chat sometime..just remember that i care about you and Jesus loves you :)

[TraceyB80]

Hi

I'm so sorry to hear that you are depressed and your mom is not supportive. I'm pretty sure I had depression as a teenager but it was only diagnosed when I was in my mid-20's, I'm 29 now so I know that you genuinely are depressed and you are not crazy. Unfortunately there is a stigma attached to depression which is why I think alot of us find it difficult to tell people.
Is there a counselor that you can talk to who can tell your mom that you have depression and that its not just a teenage phase?

I will be here for you, you can trust me.
I know its hard to trust people when they've let us down, I built up a wall for many years which isolated me and even though I trust some people now and have shared with them my struggles, I still have times when I feel alone.