alone for christmas

[mandy876]

what can a small family do to have fun on christmas family decided to ditch us.  we are aged 71.56.27.5 and need to have some fun.  me and my niece(daughter)or in treatment for depression my grand daughter is stressed out over her grandpa and our 5 year old gets bored.  we are all up set.

[littlebit667]

I understand.  I grew up with a small family, my mother, her brother, and my grandmother.  They were all dead by the time I was 37.  My mother was my best friend and advocate.  It took years for me to be able to talk about her without crying.  She died too young at 66.  Remember the good times and try to make this holiday season the best you can for the little one.  Enjoy her enjoyment and it should help you get thru this month.  

[mandy876]

i dont think i will recover from my moms death.  we were all each other had my dad had died and my hubby had died we had a bond we understood whar each of us was going through.  then she had to get alzeimers and congestive heart failure.  it was just the two of us to the end we stayed at my home she died with me standing by her side.  i know something insjde me died too.  i will be glad i could helprd her.  my sis insisted she be put in a rest home.  i would not dump my mom when she needed me most. why does everything get so messed.  god took everyone i loved and left me a shell of a person.  i will never unbderstand. gloria789

[littlebit667]

gloria, my mother has been gone 23 years and I still miss her everyday!  I hope this Christmas is one you will remember with your wonderful family.  

[mandy876]

that was heart touching whar you said.  i do have my precious family we all love each other in our own special.ways  we have each others backs.  before my mom died she told me they should be helping you.  she had a clear moment.  i told her we had each other thats all we need.  then hospice padre said i was to tell her she could go to daddy who had already.died  i did but i started crying she wiped my eyes and smiled  mouthed thank you.  that was the hardest thing i ever had to do.  we sit there and held hands for a good while she died the next day.  i miss her sooo much. she was my mom. my best friend and most of all she loved me     gloria789 merry christmas

[Tired55]

I agree with the person that said that there are 3 people who love you, maybe you guys can bake and decorate cookies and give them to neighbors or someone less fortunate than you. Or, maybe you can make your own Christmas decorations, like stringing popcorn or makina chain out of colored paper or use the cartoon section from the paper. Or go to the mall and pick a Christmas Angel and spend sometime shopping for just the perfect gift. It always makes everything better if you can feel like you are helping others. I don't know the details of your situation or why your family abandoned you this year or how your financial situation is but there are many things you can do even without money, go to Mall and look at all the decorations,let the five year old see Santa, check out the lights in your own neighborhood, read the bible about the birth of Jesus, find things to be thankful for and write them down, make decorations out of things you find in your yard; I could go on but I hope you are getting the msg. Please take care and have a Healthy, Warm, and Joyous Holiday Season, Tired55

[29sillygirl]

Hey there....
No question that this time of year can be stressful...depending on our circumstances and health.  Listen.  Lots of us live alone and do fine through the Yuletide season.  As Maddie said..those of us in our 70s have weathered many Christmases...some delightful...others not so much!  As your family is multi generational...think you can have a fun time..you have gotten good ideas.  Try to focus on what is good now...and thanks for posting...as many ppl find holidays hard.  Best...

[4Maddie44]

Hello, I am nearly 71 years old.  This Christmas it will be me and my daughter for most of the day, and I am looking forward to it.  We get on well and always have a laugh.  We make our own fun doing quizzes and playing games, perhaps a little TV.  When you get to our age, we have seen a lot of Christmases.  I look back to all the other Christmases, some good, some awful.  Be glad you have someone, and are not entirely alone, like many people.

Take care,

Maddie

[Tanker Chic]

Do the same thing you would do if a large group of you was there.. We always liked to play games after dinner. Maybe you could try that or maybe drive around and look at lights.