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can anyone help?? is it depression??
I'm 21 years old guy. I feel unhappy and feel like crying all the time.I don't seem to like anything. This is happening to me since I was in the fourth grade.. These feelings would come and go for some months but now they seem to be growing stronger and there for quite some time. I don't know what to do. Please help.
Yes It is depression. If you have been depressed since you were just a kid, perhaps something changed in your family situation that upset you. Also, you've been through adolescence during this time period, and this can sometimes make a person really depressed and holding stuff in.
sounds like it brother. it doesnt hurt to talk to a doctor or counselor to get some of that stuff worked out. I was much the same merely months ago and now i'm getting better but need to start some counseling to really get right!. Medicine helps sometimes but for us to find different better coping mechanisms is the key before its too late and we just need meds to live happy. just sharing with you, hope things get better
Hello Troubled!
I know the feeling, of not wanting to open up about your problems, this is perfectly normal in the state you're in. To comopare, I'll tell you about a problem I had one time.
I wound up with panic disorder, took 20 years of being afraid of high places from a car wreck in the mtns. But one day, I got so scared of a big bridge ahead, I stopped right smack in the middle of rush hour traffic ON A FREEWAY and freaked out, couldn't move, everything was dark and doom. Eventually I came to my senses, my husband helped me figure out how to get to the shoulder, and I creeped my way off it at the next exit. I will never forget how scary that was. I had seen psychs now and then, but this time, when I was seen by a behaviorist psychologist, I REALLY DID NOT want to open up to him, all this was scary and new to me, even tho I was used to seeing psychs. This is the nature of mental problems and emotional difficulties... you don't want to expose yourself to complete helplessness, even talking about stuff can be scary, trust is hard.
So, since you know I went through that hesitation you now feel, your logic should tell you this is normal for a new patient with a new problem they haven't talked about before. You might not need a behaviorist, rather a psychiatrist first to get some medicine going, and then to a psychologist to start working the problem (or sometimes you'll see a psychologist first for awhile, and then they send you up the hall to get some meds from the psychiatrist).
ANYHOW, the psychologist will just talk about regular stuff for a little while perhaps, or sometimes they'll ask you right off the bat what brings you there. If it's the latter, you can tell them you need to trust them first, that you are very afraid of talking to ANYONE about all this, and they will have to be patient with you... you could also ask to speak to a psychiatrist FIRST and ask them to get you a psychologist who will slowly get into your problems, that you need to establish trust.
Gosh, that's a lot of directions, isn't it? But I just wanted you to be familiar with how things can go, so you will AT LEAST give it a shot. Another thing you COULD do, just to sort of tide you over until you are good and ready to go to the pros, is to call the Crisis Intervention line, it's in the front of the phone book, but if not, then it's in the white pages alphabetically. That way you have a total stranger who only wants to help, that's all they wish to do, they are not careless people, they keep many secrets, and it will give you a chance to practice telling someone else what's up with you, perhaps how to get ahold of yourself when you feel like crashing with bad feelings and all.
You posted you have lots to say, and while you may not wish to throw it all out here on reflection, being as ANYONE can come here (but they won't know it's you... you could be Santa Claus for all they know...ha!), it won't hurt to mention just a few things and see what happens. And as for strangers caring about you, this is the nature of some people, they just want to help so bad. I even sometimes think of some person or two I have helped and hope I didn't goof it up, or I think of other things I can say if they reply, AND also I MYSELF have asked for help, in another area at the moment, my adrenal glands have been damaged somehow, it's rare, and without an effective medicine to substitute, I can go into a coma and perhaps die... and this actually happened... I mean, I didn't die, but I went into a semi-coma, don't remember a thing about most of my two stays in the hospital, both a month long, and the in-between time, I only asked husband about three things... I didn't want to know anything else.
You know, illness goes hand in hand with fear. People deal with it in different ways. I am awful at it, probably because I'm all emotion and imagination, and while I majored in philosophy (I worked on newspapers as a writer and liked philos writing), my logic is a mess. Now, I can WRITE logically, but when it comes to thinking that way, it all goes right out the window! Each person has a different level of what they can handle, what expertise they have, what situation they're in, what pressures they have every day, and so on. But one thing I DO know is you are normal to feel reluctant about sharing.
So, I'll part with reminding you of what I've said. It's normal not to want to share your private stuff, not to mention expose your fears to a practical stranger. But if the psych is worth their salt and has experience, and this is true more so in private practice than at a clinic most of the time, then you WILL be able to open a little, and eventually a stream of stuff will come to the surface, and even you will be surprised at what you find out as the psych takes over and directs your feelings to something more manageable and steers you into the positive in your world. And, if nothing else, you can call that Crisis number in the front of the phone book.
As for writing in here, this is good too, but since you have stated you are reluctant to continue saying things, you COULD just read what all other people in this forum have said to each other, and you can go back lots of pages in order to find people who seem like you, and read what all was said. You can learn just from reading, there are many self-proclaimed people who will say they have been reading a lot of posts but have yet to post themselves.
Hope this helps, and Troubled, I really think all the things that make you sad CAN be helped immensely with the right people, the right meds, you can switch psychs if you want, and eventually you will be the magic age of 22 (well into your 20s!!!) and feeling alright about this world and yourself in it, eager to set up your life for the good. Bless you and keep you always. GG
I know the feeling, of not wanting to open up about your problems, this is perfectly normal in the state you're in. To comopare, I'll tell you about a problem I had one time.
I wound up with panic disorder, took 20 years of being afraid of high places from a car wreck in the mtns. But one day, I got so scared of a big bridge ahead, I stopped right smack in the middle of rush hour traffic ON A FREEWAY and freaked out, couldn't move, everything was dark and doom. Eventually I came to my senses, my husband helped me figure out how to get to the shoulder, and I creeped my way off it at the next exit. I will never forget how scary that was. I had seen psychs now and then, but this time, when I was seen by a behaviorist psychologist, I REALLY DID NOT want to open up to him, all this was scary and new to me, even tho I was used to seeing psychs. This is the nature of mental problems and emotional difficulties... you don't want to expose yourself to complete helplessness, even talking about stuff can be scary, trust is hard.
So, since you know I went through that hesitation you now feel, your logic should tell you this is normal for a new patient with a new problem they haven't talked about before. You might not need a behaviorist, rather a psychiatrist first to get some medicine going, and then to a psychologist to start working the problem (or sometimes you'll see a psychologist first for awhile, and then they send you up the hall to get some meds from the psychiatrist).
ANYHOW, the psychologist will just talk about regular stuff for a little while perhaps, or sometimes they'll ask you right off the bat what brings you there. If it's the latter, you can tell them you need to trust them first, that you are very afraid of talking to ANYONE about all this, and they will have to be patient with you... you could also ask to speak to a psychiatrist FIRST and ask them to get you a psychologist who will slowly get into your problems, that you need to establish trust.
Gosh, that's a lot of directions, isn't it? But I just wanted you to be familiar with how things can go, so you will AT LEAST give it a shot. Another thing you COULD do, just to sort of tide you over until you are good and ready to go to the pros, is to call the Crisis Intervention line, it's in the front of the phone book, but if not, then it's in the white pages alphabetically. That way you have a total stranger who only wants to help, that's all they wish to do, they are not careless people, they keep many secrets, and it will give you a chance to practice telling someone else what's up with you, perhaps how to get ahold of yourself when you feel like crashing with bad feelings and all.
You posted you have lots to say, and while you may not wish to throw it all out here on reflection, being as ANYONE can come here (but they won't know it's you... you could be Santa Claus for all they know...ha!), it won't hurt to mention just a few things and see what happens. And as for strangers caring about you, this is the nature of some people, they just want to help so bad. I even sometimes think of some person or two I have helped and hope I didn't goof it up, or I think of other things I can say if they reply, AND also I MYSELF have asked for help, in another area at the moment, my adrenal glands have been damaged somehow, it's rare, and without an effective medicine to substitute, I can go into a coma and perhaps die... and this actually happened... I mean, I didn't die, but I went into a semi-coma, don't remember a thing about most of my two stays in the hospital, both a month long, and the in-between time, I only asked husband about three things... I didn't want to know anything else.
You know, illness goes hand in hand with fear. People deal with it in different ways. I am awful at it, probably because I'm all emotion and imagination, and while I majored in philosophy (I worked on newspapers as a writer and liked philos writing), my logic is a mess. Now, I can WRITE logically, but when it comes to thinking that way, it all goes right out the window! Each person has a different level of what they can handle, what expertise they have, what situation they're in, what pressures they have every day, and so on. But one thing I DO know is you are normal to feel reluctant about sharing.
So, I'll part with reminding you of what I've said. It's normal not to want to share your private stuff, not to mention expose your fears to a practical stranger. But if the psych is worth their salt and has experience, and this is true more so in private practice than at a clinic most of the time, then you WILL be able to open a little, and eventually a stream of stuff will come to the surface, and even you will be surprised at what you find out as the psych takes over and directs your feelings to something more manageable and steers you into the positive in your world. And, if nothing else, you can call that Crisis number in the front of the phone book.
As for writing in here, this is good too, but since you have stated you are reluctant to continue saying things, you COULD just read what all other people in this forum have said to each other, and you can go back lots of pages in order to find people who seem like you, and read what all was said. You can learn just from reading, there are many self-proclaimed people who will say they have been reading a lot of posts but have yet to post themselves.
Hope this helps, and Troubled, I really think all the things that make you sad CAN be helped immensely with the right people, the right meds, you can switch psychs if you want, and eventually you will be the magic age of 22 (well into your 20s!!!) and feeling alright about this world and yourself in it, eager to set up your life for the good. Bless you and keep you always. GG
Thank you.. I have lots to say but I hesitate to open. I'm new to this site.. I hope I open up in the future. It's nice to know a stranger cares for you.
Hello Troubled, Sounds to me like you're depressed and upset about something or other. If you have been depressed since you were just a kid, perhaps something changed in your family situation that upset you. Also, you've been through adolescence during this time period, and this can sometimes make a person really depressed and holding stuff in. Now you're 21 years old and have no motivation, nothing is any fun, you just want to sit down and cry your heart out.
So, go to a psychiatrist and get some help. You would be amazed at how much they can help in a very quick time. You can either pick one that belongs to a group in the phone book, or you can go to your County Health Department as a walk-in for very little money and be seen usually same day.
The psychiatrist would prescribe you an antidepressant, most likely, which takes some getting used to, but is SUPPOSED to help along with the next step, which is counseling from a psychologist or sociologist. That's who you confide with, and they can identify what is wrong specifically with you, why it started up at a certain age, and what all you can do about it. They will let you go when you begin to feel better and will supervise you while you slowly go off the antidepressant (a couple weeks or so).
The things you will learn, the natural joy of life will return to you, and even problems will be much easier to resolve with your return to a normal life. You are young and now is the time to straighten all this out. GG
So, go to a psychiatrist and get some help. You would be amazed at how much they can help in a very quick time. You can either pick one that belongs to a group in the phone book, or you can go to your County Health Department as a walk-in for very little money and be seen usually same day.
The psychiatrist would prescribe you an antidepressant, most likely, which takes some getting used to, but is SUPPOSED to help along with the next step, which is counseling from a psychologist or sociologist. That's who you confide with, and they can identify what is wrong specifically with you, why it started up at a certain age, and what all you can do about it. They will let you go when you begin to feel better and will supervise you while you slowly go off the antidepressant (a couple weeks or so).
The things you will learn, the natural joy of life will return to you, and even problems will be much easier to resolve with your return to a normal life. You are young and now is the time to straighten all this out. GG
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