emotions

hi my names ryan and I'm 24 and suffering with my depression at the moment, I am on venlafaxine 225mg daily and it has been working great up until a month ago when I fell out with this friend who I no longer see anymore and ever since I have felt numb and I have no been able to feel emotions and I am no longer interested in my hobbies or anything that I did enjoy about a month ago. I just feel dead inside and am finding life hard at the moment. Can anyone give me some advice to help me, I would really be thankful for it.

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P.S. thank you for taking the time to read my problem.

Ryan

[mammo]

Hi Ryan, a lot of what you're feeling in normal in a situation like this.  This friend must have meant a lot to you, and you miss them immensely. But everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we don't know or understand the reason at the time, but one day we can look back and see that it was for the best.  Still, it's a tough thing to deal with.  You've got to start living your life again, and if it's meant for this person to come back into your life, they will, if not, you need to accept this.  If you feel you cannot do this and
it's interfering with your daily life it may be time to change your medicine.  Or at least go back to your doctor and discuss what you're feeling and go from there.  We have all had to endure this in our lives, and it's very painful, and hard to get interested in anything, but you need to think of you and you're well being.  I think the sooner you start getting back to your usual activites, you'll start to feel better, and you need to stay busy to keep your mind off your friend.  It will get easier, I promise.  Force yourself to start doing things again, I think once you do, you will feel better with each day.  You have a life to live, don't lose a moment of it!  I know you can do this!  Take care..........

[whodunnit]

Your post above concerns me somewhat Ryan. Reason? It's identical to one you posted a while ago. Which tells me that nothing has really changed but it would have been best to simply add a message to the previous post so others knew what had been said and done already.

The emotion free zone is, in my opinion, an indication of the depth of depression. When things get too much for us, in the depths of depression, our mind tends to shut down to protect us. Usually we are almost vegetative as well, simply sitting and staring most likely. The process is simply protecting us as our mind just can't take any more of anything so it shuts down to a degree.

I don't know if this is relevant to your depression as I don't really know how deep or extended it is. Maybe you are simply experiencing a rejection of emotions in reaction to whatever happened to you when the relationship broke up. We can just shut things out. It happened to me at 10 years old Ryan, and lasted till I was 35. I did not think I had emotions and wondered what others talked about. Today I live on emotion, it's my day, my night. Some days I'd much prefer to go back to emtion free times but the reality was I wasn't emotion free at all. I was suppressing them and eventually they exploded and sent me to the wall, many times.

Talk mate, messages, as many as you want, I'll respond.