how to cope with depression, anxiety, stress, sadness, and anger

[BerryBlue3]

Hi. My cousin just recently passed away February ninth (it is now March eighth), he was only 45 yrs old, my family or I have never been through any kind of deaths except when my grandmother on my moms side passed away from lung caner, and that was only tough on me mostly, because my parents were never married so my dads side of the family (I live with my dads parents) doesnt really know anybody from my moms side,but we don't know how my cousin died and his mom wouldnt get an autopsy done so we don't know, but we think it was a brain anuerysm(idk if i spelled that right) but it has been sooo tough on my family, we have been together for the past month(it seems like only a few days since the death.). I am not the kind of person to show emotions. so just about every night that I have been alone I have cried myself to sleep(m an only child and have always wanted brothers and sisters sooo bad). I have not only cried because of his death, I start thinking about other stuff from my past too, such as my mom who has been on drugs such as Meth for about 8yrs now, and it hasnt affected me hardly at all after about age 8 until now for some weird reason and all my family loves me and I live with my grandparents who love me a whole lot and have plenty of money (not that it matters) and take great care of me.( i go to a councelor once a month, have since I was about 8 or 9). I am still very young (13 yrs old) and I would like to get answers or something that I can do to get rid of these awful emotions that feel like they are slowly killing me.(nothing where i have to express my feelings, because im not going to do it!) PLEASE GIVE ME ANSWERS! THANKS!

[heyjude1]

Hi, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things to face in life and it is natural to feel depressed.  You mentioned you see a therapist once a month, perhaps during this time, you could possibly see her more often?  Have you seen your therapist since the passing? Perhaps you have a pastor you could talk with.  

You or your grandparents may want to look into counseling or group therapy at your school.  My daughter lost her Dad when she was nine yrs. old.  Fortunate for her, the school system offered a group therapy for kids that have had major losses in their lives.  The group therapy allowed my daughter to discuss her pain of losing her Dad and to relate to other kids that were going thru the same things.  With the therapist present in the group, they were given suggestions on how to cope and grieve.  Grieving is part of loss and is  also natural, you can't stop it, you must go thru it and it can take some time.  There are many stages of grief that a person goes thru until they are finally able to except the loss and go forward with their life.  Eventually with the help of grieving and time, one is able to remember the good times wth happiness and joy.  
But, it helps to feel  free to talk about you loss and pain you are feeling and you have made the first step by coming forward and expressing your pain and feelings.  Please get in to see your therapist as soon as possible to gain help.  God bless you and I know He is with you and will help you through this....you are not alone.  

[boogieman]

Hello. Ya, it sounds like you've been suppressing your emotions for a while, and now they're beginning to surface. This will have a negative effect on you if not dealt with, and the sooner the better. I know its hard to express emotions, but once you do it, it won't be such a big deal, and will become easier. Not to mention it will enable you to be free of the depression that the repression eventually creates. To start off, you could confide in someone close to you, even someone here, to get used to opening up. It will be worth it once you make the effort. Take care, GM

[M4Y0U]

Hello there,

I'm sorry to hear what you are living thru but I just want you to know that you are not alone. You need someone to talk to and since you are in high school I would go talk to your teacher, director or even the nurse if you want and tell them about your current situation and I'm sure your school have a psy you could use for free. You have to let those emotions out to avoid any recessed emotions which might hurt you now and your future. Since you are young you better work on this issue right now. Go talk to your grandparants and your mom and tell hem everything and you will get the support you deserve.

Don't forget that we are still here too and keep us updated if you want,
M4