is it depression or baby blues?

[sickofbeinglied2]

i hade my second child about 7 weeks ago,( its alot hrder with two of them!)the day after i got out of the hospital i had an appointment for my 1st son to see if he had autism. it turns out that he does.well he acts up a lot more now that we have a new baby!then that weekend i found out my husband to b has been addicted to oxys 4 the last year. i was to occupied with my 1st son to really notice or should i say to question it.i also am raisisng my 16 year old brother, im only26.i always thought i was mentally strong enough ive been through alot of hardships in my life and ive always been o.k. but for the past 2or3 weks i feel like i just cant handle it anymore i seem to be irritable im yelling at 1st son alot more i know he cant help it.im yelling at my hubby 2b i feel like hes always lying even know he proves it to me that hes not!my new son all he does is cry when hes up.my brother is always pulling teenage stuff! and im feeling sad all the time i find my crying alot more not just when i had a real stressful day. could i b depressed or is this just the babyblues people r telling me cause i feel like it could b alittle more and if i could b i dont even have time to get help!idk

[venora]

Honey you are going throiugh depression with all you have to handle and a new baby to boot.See about getting into some therapy and try to sppent some quality "me " time. as I am pretty sure you dont have any time to your self.
Come here to talk as often as you want and I will listen.That is a big helop just to be able to get things off your chest. and Remember you are loved and worthy to be loved.
Love Venora

[girlyredhead]

I am 26 too, and the mother of 3 girls, one just 3 mths. old.  You sound like you have way too much on your plate and unfortunately you can't do it all all the time...It took me a long time to accept that myself lol.

Things will get better.  You are probably soo exhausted you feel way too overwhelmed.  I would talk to your Dr. and see if he recommends anything or if he feels it to be unnecessary.  

Baby blues usually have to do with just having a baby.  You are dealing with a LOT more then that.  I would definitely say its depression.

[minsnotux]

I don't know how you're making it through every day.  Congratulations on your new baby!  Also congratulate yourself on making it through all that you have!!  I so remember the days of bringing home baby #2 and how difficult it was.  I didn't have any issues with my 1st nor did I have a 16 year old to raise as well.  Before you start taking medications, try taking time for yourself - a walk with the babies in a stroller, eating right and some therapy (even if it's just coming here and writing).  This too shall pass and it will get better.  I am so sorry for what you are going through right now.  Is there anyway your boyfriend and brother can help and give you a day to yourself?  Just shut yourself up in a room with a good book or movie and remove yourself from it all for a bit.  Sometimes that has made the world of difference for me.  When i was in your position I did start taking Prozac and got relief from it but 10 years later, I wish I had never gone the medication route.  Are there any herbs you could try?  You will be in my heart and prayers!!  Wish you all the best!

[marstreis]

It could be many different things it sounds like you have got your hands very full!  You are a very strong person!  You could be getting worn  down from all of the things going on around you and when you get worn down it can be easy to fall into depression.  Sometimes we can come out of it naturally and sometimes we need a little more help.  Here is a link that has advice for some dietary and lifestyle changes that may be helpful for you: http://www.jigsawhealth.com/articles/depression.html.  I thought you might be able to look it over and find something useful.  Aslo, try clearing out 10-20 minutes at the end of the day just for yourself so you can relax and reflect on the day.  This strategy is very helpful and I still do it every night.  Its amazing how much a clear head at the end of the day can help the next day.  Good Luck!