is my wife a bisexual?

[bagera]

my wife has a recurrent dream that she is making love with women also she has fantasies about such things.we are together from about four years i have never felt that she is a bisexual not a single time.she told me that sometime she cries and feels depressed and guilty because she dreams and feels that way. she went to see a shrink he told her that she is a bisexual but i really dont think so and this issue annoyes me a lot because she is now convinced of that and she is happy now she reads daily about woman affairs with another woman. she also loves me a lot and cant live without me she did everything to convince her parents to agree on our marriage.please tell me what to do. thank you

[wickedwanderer]

i think it's somewhat natural to be curious about same sex relationships.  i know i am, but i w ouldn't consider myself bisexual.

[Barbarella]

Could she be bored with her current sex life with you?  Get a DVD or a magazine where Lesbians get it on and see how she likes it.  If it turns her on she could be bisexual or just in need of something "out of the ordinary" so to speak to "spice up" her sex life.  Something "forbidden".  

[bagera]

thank you for your comment, first i dont think that our sex life is bored cause from time to time we do something new as you said to spice up things. second this dream she used to dream of before she met me not now. she went to the dr. in the first place to find a mental cure for her over eating but among the therapy she talked about her dreamand the dr. ( i don't know why) focused on this issue. i admitt that she has some concern in everything related to girls cause she despises the male gender because of  previous failer relalationships that made her very depressed before she met me. i feel that the dr. enlarges the idea of bisexuality on her mind, he is sending her photoes of a nude girls while they are chatting online he is trying his best to focuse on this matter he has drifted away from the main problem which is over eating.

[Barbarella]

The doctor is sending her photos of nude girls while they are chatting on line??  Is this suppose to be part of the therapy??  To see if she gets turned on??

If he is only concentrating on that and not on her overeating also something is not adding up here, I would find me another shrink.  

Did he ever tell your wife "why" he is sending her the photos of nude girls??  Something is not adding up here.

About your wife despising the male gender that does not make her bisexual.  Lots of women, I know one, who despises men because of the way they were abused, but they are not turning to women as in getting sex from women.  Maybe I am wrong, I'm not a shrink, but I would definately get to the bottom why he is sending her nude photos of girls while they are chatting.  Looks to me like he is getting off himself waiting to hear what your wife has got to say. Waiting to hear if she gets turned on.

Call another shrink and ask what kind of therapy is involved in a situation like your wife'st.  Don't tell him/her about the nude photos this shrink is sending because doctors wont trash each other.  Just ask because your wife is concerned and embarrassed (even if she is not) you and her would like to know beforehand what she could expect as in therapy.  If they say that SHE has to make that call tell them that you BOTH want to come for therapy, if you still wont get any answers at least you tried.

[bagera]

Thank you again Barbarella, i told her the same thing that the dr. wanted to see if she will turn on for his own bad intentions. and yes i'll take your advice and see another shrink to clear everything up. i really appreciate your responses i needed to talk to some one thank you very much.