just feel stressed out

[mandy876]

I have a house full of people and no one has money but me.  I told the young one she had to go.  she said I could not make her go.  she has a name on a paper.  then a  while after that she said I stress her out because asked her when she was going to file papers to get her baby back.  she said I don't want to talk,  you just stress me out.  then be fore that her mom. was fusing because I came in and watching a show with her.  she said what is that noise you are making.  I said It was the cat jumped upon the back  of my chair, she said no  you were making a clicking.noise.  I said i give up. I have been in my room for 2 days I guess they have not noticed.   I see no reason for going on.  none needs me for anything.  I am not going to do anything stupid. they will  be running out of food and then they will be nice again.  or if they need me to sign something or go to court with them.  I give up;  mandy876

[mandy876]

i have a low self esteem i am so stupid that i am going tomorrow  to get her baby boy.  she has to be with her mom me are her sister.  and she cant  go get him by herself.  the older child is in school here making great grades.  before he was getting in trouble.  the only problem we have he talks too much. she has a job i guess tuesday and when she gets paid she is going to put baby in day care at church.his big brother went there and it was really good.  she found a home.  if she stays she is going to move out.i will have to see he is smooth talking her will drop the custody of the baby.  i think he will do anything to keep the baby.  we got blamed for his mom being drug tested.  she failed he has 30 days to get out.  but the cps caseorker says she will automatically become the prime care mom.  thank you for everything.  yes i am a little afraid of them.  thank yiu mandy876

[mandy876]

hi  i wish i was strong as you.  they say i dont want to and ignore.  her parents are old and sickly. i wish i could i would be lonely.  buti lived alone for nearly 20 after my hubby  died. when my mom diedi lost my will to do anything.  i did not care about anything.  she made me go to my doctor.  he came in and said ant you smile and i broke down crying.  he said i was in severe depression.  a week or so ago he added another i was so upset.  he said i was stressed out. my family kind of dropped me.  that is ok they have to live with them selves.thank you i will try toet strong.  mandy876

[mandy876]

i wrote  you a nice long note.  it disappeared.  i will try to remember all i said or most of it.  jessie got a job made it 1 12 days she was too tired.  i agree with the loveboat but iam not that strong.  the young one and i had a disagreement today.he was going to take logan and leave.  he goes to school right across the street. i started to call her daddy but they are always here.  she cant go anyplace with the kids without my niece or me or her sis.  this has her upset.she said she might go to spend theweekend down there at houston so he can see logan.  they taalked and she asked him why he never called to talk to logan.  he called the baby every night.  it is really harming is disposition.  he thinks he is stupid and none cares about him.  his dad is doing that to him.  she was suppose to take him to a councellor to see what they think.  thanj you again.  mandy876

[nursegirl6572]

GREAT post!  Hopefully mandy will take it to heart, especially because you went through something almost identical to what she's been dealing with.  I hope you can help guide her, help her find the courage to put her foot down and say "enough is enough!"

[theloveboat]

I know how you feel I was taken advantage of and those were my kids. I stayed in my room all the time. Then, one day I had enough and laid the law down. I pay the rent the bills and food so if they couldn't help out with any of these to just get out. It took me going to a therapist to get strong and stand up to others that have no respect for me. And this worked and have no one living with me but my daughter now. I make her pay rent and food, she needs to learn that there is no free ride in this life even at home. It's the hardest thing I had ever done in my life but that's what I had to say ''THIS IS MY LIFE , YOU DON'T LIKE IT THEN LEAVE''. if you let people run all over you they will take full advantage of it. I've  never been so happy in my life. sad you have to take those measures but they will respect you more for taking a stand. good luck to you don't give up or give in when it comes to you being happy and keep your sanity

[nursegirl6572]

Not sure what else to say mandy....I just cannot imagine that level of disrespect in my own home, coming from people I've taken in and helped when NO ONE else would (you have to wonder why that is, you know?  I bet others have already caught on to the abuse)

As far as your niece goes...I know you wanted to help her, and you have, for a long long time now.  If she respected you, she would defend you and respect you, and demand that her daughter do the same.   I'm sorry mandy, but she's taking advantage of you as well.  

And, a lot of people have mental illnesses, that's never an excuse for bad behavior.  She's put you in horrible situations again and again.

I just wish you'd make a stand once and for all...give them all notice that they have so long before they need to be out.  They're grown adults....they'll figure something out.  Them never having to stand on their own two feet isn't "helping" them anyway...it's just enabling.

I know you have a heart the size of Texas.....and that's awesome, but now it's time to grow some.....well.....balls!  This is no way to live.  No wonder you're always depressed.  I wouldn't last a day in that environment.  AND the young one has a baby on the way....you know you're going to end up with the baby there too.  Insanity sweetie!

[mandy876]

the young one is trying to get her boyfriend back all they do is argue.  he will never take her any where. he has left her 3 or 4 times for someone else.  if he is a cheater he will always be a cheater.  they are expecting a baby in April.  they did not know this when they broke up.  My older niece her  mom  we normally get along.  she is bi polar and manic depressive.  she has no where to go.  been disowned by most of our family.  I am the only one that took her in.  her boyfriend had broke her arm and my mom had just died and I had given up and was starving myself.  I did not want to live.  she basicly saved  my life.  she gave me a reason to live.  we do have some rough times.  but I know it is her illness that is most of her problems.  thank you mandy876

[mandy876]

when I saw your name I thought about all you had told me in the past.  It was ok for a while but the disrespect.  the young one with 2 kids and 1 on the way I don't even remember what was said,  I told her mom that I told her to get permission before she used the truck.  she said she is a liar meaning me. I don't recall being that mad before I am not a liar he is tried to con front her and she just said you cant say anything I belong you cant do anything about of it.  if i had had a gun I would have shot her I hate when someone to calls me something I am not. her mom just sit there and said nothing.  but if she hadn't smiled it would not have been so bad. if she didn't have that smirky smile on her face.  she tried to kill her self that night. she slashed her wrist.  looked like scratches. her mom said she tried to come in and talk with me I said no. then her boyfriend said she was not going to get her baby back.  she was holding him in the driveway.  he was jerking him out of her arms. I called the police they were trying to settle everyone down. they were going to give the baby to her but he was saying bad things to the police.about her.  she said let him have him.  the police told him to take the baby and run before she changes her mind. she does not use drugs or alcohol.  she just cant do things right.  we finally got to see the baby.  CPS is involved she cant be alone with either child unless her mom or me is with her.  she has to take parenting classes check in with the mental health and pass all this and see a psychologist,  before she can be alone with her kids.i guess it came back home to her but worse.thank you mandy876

[nursegirl6572]

I hate to say this, and don't mean it at ALL in an unkind way....but we all TOLD you this was going to happen...you knew it too.  You said months ago you were NOT letting anyone else move in with you, and yet, here you are.

I'm sorry, but when is enough, enough?

This isn't about you helping them at all anymore....people you're helping would be grateful and thankful, not rude, demanding, and threatening, and certainly they wouldn't be okay with you being stuck in your room.

If you don't do something drastic, it's just going to get worse and worse.  Before long, her BF (or A BF) will be living there, along with the baby.  YOUR house dear...not theirs.

You're 100000000% getting taken advantage of, and it makes me sad.

You know what you need to do, we've told you a million times.  Kick them to the curb, and reclaim your life and your home.  The way you're living isn't living at all.  Eventually, they will find a way (if they haven't already) to have legal rights to everything you own, your home, your money, all of it.  If you cannot see that coming, hon, I'm just not sure what else to tell you.  We've told you the same thing over and over and over, for years now.

I PRAY hard that you can dig deep and find the strength and courage to do what you need to do, which is to put your foot down once and for all.  And, don't say that YOU are all they have, and their other loved ones turned their back on them, and you love them.....because that's all just things you've convinced yourself of.  You have given them nothing but a free ride, and not only have they given you NOTHING in return....they take take take, and add more and more stress on you.  Mandy, if that's love...I wouldn't want to know what hate is.

So sorry for what you're going through, but you've completely and totally created all of this for yourself.  I know you have a heart of gold, and all of your intentions are wonderful, but theirs are not.  They are taking advantage of you, you've become a minority in your home....you're allowing them to walk all over you, of COURSE you feel horrible.  Who wouldn't?  That's 100% COMPLETELY within your control!!!

Imagine how nice it would be to reclaim your home?  YOUR space?  If you don't start taking action soon, you'll never be rid of them, and it's only going to get worse and worse, which is exactly what has happened.

[butterfly_2014]

Ok, so there are people in your life stressing you out. Is it just your name on the lease? If so, Kick the ungrateful buggers out of the house, If they are also on the lease then you need to find your self somewhere else to go. If that's your biggest problem, You don't really have that much to worry about. As for not being needed, you sound lonely. Find some new friends who appreciate you.