stress and depression

[lmr79]

I am 47 and have just gone through the worst year of my life. My husband and I have lived by commuting the last  4 years due to his job. Our youngest son graduated HS and we relocated after high school years were over. My husband and I sold our home and moved approx. 100 miles away. Before we had moved anything from our old house we bought a house in the new location. My husband became very ill and was flown to a specialty hospital approx. 300 miles away. He was told he may have to go on a transplant list and he was hospitialized for most of the summer on and off. He has recovered almost completely and is doing great, problem is he lost his job due to the missed work and illness he had. Of course the co. didnt say that was why!  He not only lost his job but of course his insurance. We are getting by but its tough. New town no friends no job not good.I have been under a great deal of stress and depression. My husband is looking for work but he was making a 6 digit salary  and those are hard to come by where we live. I have now begun bleeding and it will not stop. Started in Nov. Stopped 6 wks and now back again. I am concerned about this now too on top of everything else. Please tell me a good anti depressant I could talk with my phisician about, havent tried any so not sure where to start. thank you

[charlesdow]

probably the bleeding is due to menopausal symptoms but definitly needs to be checked out. its hard making friends but sometimes just joining a group or a club is a start.
a lot of people are in the same financial woes right now, but the most important thing is your health and the rest will take care of itself.
good luck

[LeftCoastChick]

I think you are dealing with two different issues, both which need addressing. You need to get looked at by a GP about the "bleeding", do you mean menstrual?   We can't suggest here what meds to try, but it's a good idea to educate yourself when you go in. Do know that meds aren't an instant cure, they will help you cope, but they won't take the issue away.  It sounds like you are menopausing possibly as well, a miserable time, on top of the instability in your life. Even just talking with your doctor can help and maybe a referral to some talk therapy, but do get a check up, going for 6 weeks with your period is serious and needs to be checked out.

[birdie0907]

A psychiatrist is better than your physician, but if money is an issue use whatever resources you have and see your doc. My doc worked for me, but it is all a matter of how deep your problem is and your body chemistry.
You need to see the medical professional to find out if you are just unhappy and feeling down because of the recent events which have been quite a shock to you, or whether you are clinically depressed.
If you are not clinically depressed, there are lots of therapies such as meditation, cognitive behaviour, talk therapy etc. Your doc may prescribe short term anti-anxiety meds in addition to the therapy.
If you are diagnosed to be clinically depressed, however, most likely you will need a med for at least 6 months. The depression will have a pretty good hold on you, but the meds take the edge off, if they work for you. There is no guarantee of success as each person's body chemistry is different and reacts differently. They worked for me, but other people don't all get a good result.
Be open with doc, and you stand a better chance of her being able to diagnose you.