A lady I know found out her husband cheated on her (30+) years ago. She keeps referring to herself as "the victim" (since in her mind she was the perfect spouse/wife) & she is now breaking his things, ripping up cards/pictures, throwing fits, trying to get her grown children involved, etc. She refuses to get professional help. What can I say or do to help change her mind??? Why do people get so engrossed in "the victim mentality?"
You can't change her mind, plain and simple. If she is doing that, you can't save her or fix her. To be honest, doing what your doing isn't healthy either. I had a friend in University who got like that, you can't help someone whom isn't willing to get help, you can't be her "rescuer:. I had to walk away from our friendship.
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