what do i do

[momof4now]

i have been with someone for 2 years.  he has stated that he cannot h andle my children on a daily basis and he also looks at porn (which I just discovered).  I am 5'111/2 and blonde. he is 5'5 and a police officer.  he has told me that he cannot h andle my children on a daily basis.  after 1 yr 1/5. it would be bad.  it would be the end of us.  my children come first..............he compliments me alot.  but yet he still looks at naked women.  am I not what he wants.  i have been ion abusive relationships numerous times.  i have been abused, emotionally physically, financially, chocked, etc. i don't understand why he can't see me.  i was devastated when i found porn on his computer.  i left him.  we talked about it. he apologized and bought me earrings.  but my dep0ression hurts.  i'm not worth any o9ne or anything.  

[MontanaGurl]

i am so sorry for what you are going through.  please don't think that, you are worth something and dont ever say that to yourself.  he is the butt head for looking at porn, that is duscusting and awful.  you should not put yourself through that abuse.  you are worth so much more and deserve to have someone love you and care for you and not make you feel less than you are.  i would suggest leaving him and staying away from him, your kids and you deserve love and attention not someone who can't stand them and looks at naked people.
montanagurl

[LeftCoastChick]

Why are you with him? You know you have a pattern of choosing abusive men. He's already told you he can't handle you children, he obviously isn't interested in getting serious with him. Bribing you with gifts is typical for someone who is abusive. You really need to get into some therapy, not only for you, but so you can be healthy for your children. I have a differing opinion on adult videos, all sorts of people watch them, it doesn't mean he's cheating though. You just have different moral views them him. Obviously it upsets you, and if you aren't happy with it, and he refuses to stop. Why are you still with him? Get some therapy, stay away from him and focus on your kids, they always should come first.

Much luck

[Hensley258]

Can I give you an honests mans side of the story? You need to better understand the male brain. Many of us enjoy watching porn. This does not make your boyfriend a bad person, nor does it mean that he is not turned on by you also.

Porn for us men is kind of like masterbation (masturbation). We have no emotion involved with it. As men we enjoy watching women have sex. "yes even hard core sex." This does not mean that your partner is a "freak" or weird. He is simply a man and as men we happen to enjoy watching women have sex.

This is just a fact and 95% of men you will meet or know (although they will not admit it) very much enjoy porn. This by no mean is any indication that he is not totally in love with you and loves being with you.

This is man. You must understand this aspect of us males. we are visual creatures and porn is in many cases a release for us. Dont be a prude and maybe even offer to watch some of his movies with him.