Alopecia?

[Amara39]

Hi.  I am a 24 year old female.  I have just gone/still going through a major transition in my life; I just immigrated from overseas, just got married, living in a new country, looking for work, trying to "settle" into a new lifestyle with my husnad, marrital stress.

On the 14th of May, 2009, one day before I was due to fly out to get married my hairdresser abroad found an alopeica at the back of my scalp (bottom righthand side). Over a period of 6 weeks my husband and I monitored it; I was going to a natropath and acupuncturist. On B12/B complex/Womens health vitaims.   I also went to see a variety of dermotologists however my experience had been that they were all rougues; wanting my money for expensive treatment without willing to discuss the root cause for what was happening to me.
Recently a GP took blood work to test hormone levels/thyroid etc.  I had to tell the doctor what I wanted to be tested for.
I HAVE LEARNT MORE ABOUT MY ILLNESS FROM GOOGLE AND THE INTERNET.

In the last 2 weeks I have had two more alopecias develop, on the right and left side of my head, just above my ears.

I feel so horribly alone; the stress of loosing my hair it effecting my emotionally and physically.  It is putting stress on my marriage and we've only been married for 6 weeks. I am trying to be strong, but I feel like I am falling apart. I have no friends or family (beside my in-laws) here, I am loosing the desire to want to leave the house. It began with being scared to wash my hair because of all the hair falling out in my hands; then it was that I was too scared to look at my hair in the morning in fear of another alopecia; now its that I dont even want to look at myself.

I dont know what to say to my husband.  I have tried to communicate with him about my fears of loosing all my hair/patches.  I know he is only trying to help but its as if he cant get beyond the issues associated with vanity.  

I feel like I am dealing with an alopecia as well as a complete emotional breakdown.