CUT NEAR BETWEEN ANUS AND VAGINA (CAN THIS BE HERPES?!) I'M ON THE ROAD TO INSANITY...PLEASE HELP!

Hi Doctor.  I always find your input on all these dramatic postings EXTREMELY helpful and I hope that you can give me your best ADVICE/SUGGESTION/DIAGNOSIS possible.  Back on 9/14 I had unprocted sex (I know it was stupid-drunk mistake) with a male that I've known for a while.  HOWEVER, we only lasted about 15 minutes without achieving climax (but there was also some rubbing involved to add to my stupidity).  I haven't experienced any symptoms that would suggest any STDS, but I know that many people don't experience them and must get tested at the mark of 3 months for effective results. I do shave (but not recently) and lately I began to feel itching around my vagina (outer lips), sometimes I pull on the skin to relieve the itching and the itching gets more intense.  Just today I began examining myself but didn't see any sores/blisters, however I must admit I streched my vagina skin in a roughly way to try to examine it (to be specific the lower part almost by the anus where the skin is extremely sensitive) and as I cleaned myself after I went to the rest room I noticed that I was spotting and it was coming from around that area.  Then I checked myself when i got home from work and I noticed a cut near the area where I was examining this morning.  Based on this description...can this be herpes?!  I've read on many sites that herpes can often be confused as cuts.  

[Alan Rockoff, MD]

Doesn't sound like herpes at all.  I think that your guilt and fear are taking over.  Just leave yourself alone and get examined when you can.  Obviously, you should avoid unprotected sex--it just isn't worth it, don't you think?

Best.

Dr. Rockoff

[loiloi]

The skin between your vagina and anus is very sensitive so don't pull at it. Feminine itching could be a sign of thrush which is very common and can be triggered by antibiotics, the pill, perfumed bubble baths or for no apparent reason. It is easily treated by a pessary, oral tablet or cream available from your pharmacist. I agree with the doctor that you feel guilty over the unprotected sex and are punishing yourself with these negative thoughts. Get tested and always use a condom in future. If you shave do so in a warm bath with a new razor and a good quality shaving gel. Loiloi x

[GNM97]

Thank you so much for your advice.  I have made an appt with my obgyn to calm my nerves.  I guess I do feel extremely guilty and stupid for making this mistake, but hopefully I learn my lesson from this.  I just have one more question (which I asked in my first posting) Is it possible to cut yourself down there from scratching or messing with the skin too much? Can a herpes outbreak manifest as a cuts? (I have to small ones) The weird thing about this cut is that it's on only one side of the vagina and prior to discovering it,I didn't have any tingling/itching/numbness sensation.  I just have have a little discomfort and pain (like you would if you cut yourself anywhere on your body) but no intense itching and I've read that cuts near the vagina opening can be herpes...is this true?!  I PROMISE THIS IS THE LAST QUESTION! you have a heart of gold!

[GNM97]

Thank you also for your input in this manner.  I sometimes think that I provoke my own symptoms and then I do my research on the internet and find all of my related symptoms to those of herpes and then I begin freaking out.  My partner didn't seem to have any lessions at the time of our encounter but he has never been tested for HSV2 and that in itself concerns me (I've already pursued him to do so).  I've read that you must be exposed 2-3 times a week to even catch the virus (when lessions are not present) but then I read that it can only take one exposure so I don't know what information to rely on and it's extremely overwhelming.  I've told my mother about this and she believes that I've cut myself from stretching the skin too much and examining it everyday (I've been doing so since my unprotected encounter). Also, I heard that vaginal discharge can be a sign of herpes adn now I can't even distinguish my own discharge (I have to smell it and examine it everytime to make sure it doesn't look/smell abnormal) I'M JUST SOOOOO CONCERNED and I still have a month to go to get examined so you imagine!

[loiloi]

I have been in a similar situation myself where i got so upset about my acne that it caused me anxiety and i had to take anti-depressants and diazepam. Yes, the skin down there is very sensitive and can tear, mine did when i had my baby. Please stop touching it and use only unperfumed bath products so it can heal. Vaginal discharge is perfectly normal it would be very different from usual if you had an infection; really smelly and a yellowy green color instead of white. It is good you can talk to your mom, this helped me too. Your symptoms do not sound at all like herpes. Please stop feeling bad about one mistake, we've all done it and many girls nowadays have many sexual partners. You have learnt a valuable lesson, don't drink too much and always use a condom. xx

[scaredgrl85]

I'm in a similar situation right now. I've had a chronic tear between my vagina and anus since May and it comes and goes. I got it cultured and it was negative for herpes and my doctor thinks its from trauma. Did you find out what it can possibly be? I'm getting really stressed out as well from this situation. Let me know what you find out!

[slacker101]

A tear??? What the hell

[googlegirl226]

I have a similar situation. When I was married I noticed that every time we would have rougher-than-usual sex my tear would hurt and the fact that he was overweight and wasn't considerate of that fact when he was on top seemed to stretch me even more. I've been tested for herpes and everything else under the sun just to make sure it's nothing and I'm spotless. I recently had sex again and it hurt again. It had been 6 months since I had sex and still it was painful. Mind you, the guy was overweight and it was rough. My last sexual partner and I never experienced this problem, and I think it was because though we had rough sex, he wasn't overweight so there wasn't any pressure to pull on the area. It's good to know that I'm not the only one with this problem, but it's frustrating that it's still unsolved.

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