Well, I have read lots from people here. So, here's mine. I have herpes... sort of. That is, I have it, but haven't had a outbreak for 3 years. Not on medication, it's just very infrequent. Have had it for 30 years. More outbreaks at the beginning and over the years... just very few. I know what outbreaks are... REALLY!. So, new sex with new partner. Used a condom. (first time in a long time). And I got a friction burn just past where the condom reached. My first conclusion was 'latex allergy'. Then, unprotected sex with someone I know is disease free. No problems after the burn healed. Then after blood tests, etc... A few months later, back to other partner (where I got the burn) and Damn, now burns on both sides of the shaft. Took nearly 2 weeks to heal completly. Tried lubrication. I think I know what it is and there is a very significant difference between these two women. The "burn" woman, has very closely trimmed pubic hair, especially at the entrance to her vagina. (well, all over, but that's where it counts for me). I asked her to let it grow a bit. It wasn't short enough to cause a 'burn' ... like my face when I haven't shaved for a day or two. It was MUCH longer and I couldn't imagine it was that. But she let it grow. Still got a burn. Tried lube, being gentle until there is enough 'slipperiness'... I have been having sex with these two women for nearly 6 months now. One - never a problem. Other - a burn every time. The longer the intercourse session, the worse the burn. And, sorry to be so graphic, last sex was a majority on her side on bed and me standing. Burn was on the side of my shaft which in that tilt had most contact with her. There is NOTHING that hurts during. I don't get it. I was thinking it's a PH issue. And forgive the graphics again, but she tastes delicious. No infections of any kind. No radical PH that hits my tongue funny. I was thinking of sneaking a piece of litmus paper in there, just to see, but I am convinced that there is something about her 'trim' and her anatomy. She is extraordinarily tight for someone who has had a child, but again, sex feels just 'normal' on a 'pressure' scale on my penis skin.
Pointing a finger at her has become difficult. She is blonde (all over),... her hair is not coarse. I just don't get it and don't know what to do. One doctor suggested that I was 're-opening' wounds that had not healed. I abstained for a week and then with other woman... no ill effects. Burns were healing and continued even after sex with her. A week later with burn woman and we were in the shower... she asked, how are you healing and looked down and there it was, another burn.
This *****. I need an answer. I know it's her or... the way we 'fit'. I am not sure if this has anything to do with anything, but woman 1 is thin. 5'8" 110 lbs. Burn woman is built COMPLETELY differently... Still 5'8", but 125 lbs and has wide hips.
I am thinking about trying just a single position (her on bed, me standing with her legs up). Again, sorry about the graphics. I am thinking that this would cause the least pressure.... and see what that does. Our relationship is not close enough to ask her to experiment with me. Her seeing the burn last time... I think she is ready to get to the bottom of it though...so, I may ask her to experiment this way.
For those who think this is herpes... here are some clues... for most, there is a prodrone - a sensation a day or two before an outbreak. Some have it some don't. I had it 100% of the time before an outbreak. Herpes looks like fluid filled pin head size blisters that hurt. The surrounding area is reddened and inflamed. The blisters break after 4-5 days and then crust and it takes 2 weeks or so to heal. What I am describing above is COMPLETELY different... it is the closest thing to a rug burn I could imagine 'there'.
You have not mentioned of any penile discharge, palpable nodes in the groin and any urinary problems. This does not sound like herpes or an STD at this point. You have described the skin condition as a "burn". I would think that this is some form of irritant or contact dermatitis. This skin condition may be chronic and inflammatory and may last for quite some time.
1% hydrocortisone cream applied thinly over affected areas may help. Make sure there is no open wound or discharge when you apply this. If after 48 hours there is no response, then have this assessed by your physician again. You may abstain from sexual activity and allow this to heal. Observe if any improvement takes place.
Thanks Vanessa for your note...
Of course if there were any, I would have posted discharge, nodes, urinary problems. There are none. It's not an STD nor herpes. The real question is how do I get contact dermatitis from a person? Could she be using some ****** or something which is an irritant? Is this really friction. The condition was not CHRONIC and really is NOT chronic. The sex with another partner establishes that. I understand hydrocortisone cream, but giving it 1-2 weeks to heal on its own does nicely. As noted, improvement DOES take place. I appreciate your trying to be helpful, but, as noted, I was fine, healed and then - again with Burn girl... and there it is again. The real issue is with her and me. Is is friction? Is it hair/shaving? This is not a serious condition, but very annoying... And from the sound of other posts... I am not the only one ....
This is quite hard to answer as at this point the definite trigger is unknown. However, it appears to be that being intimate with this woman seems to aggravate the condition. There are certain cases of allergies wherein a person may be allergic to someone’s body fluids as in the case of allergies to semen. In your case, a complete medical history of this woman may be necessary. Her diet, contraceptive use and use of other medications may be taken into account. Avoiding sexual intimacy with her would be wise at this point until the cause of this skin condition has been ascertained.
I would still think that an allergic dermatitis may be the likely differential here. Another form of allergic reaction appears to be associated with friction or exertion. However,if this is the case, then the condition will have to be associated with other activities.
Hi ... well, I think you hit it on the head. I am looking for the trigger. It's not sex or friction which causes the problem. It doesn't happen with others. I really see a potential future with her and am unwilling to avoid intercourse with her. Allergic to her bodily fluids??? This is clearly not a simple frinction issue. I think I have to narrow it down to 'her fluids' or our physical 'builds' causing more friction than with someone else. I have still not ruled out the hair/shaving. issue. Ok more graphics and this is just thinking out loud. Every woman is 'built' differently. If her labia majora is larger than I am 'used to' and if her hair is very trimmed would the contact points cause this? The interesting part is that the 'burns' occur towards the mid part of my shaft. Sometimes left, sometimes right. Never bottom, occasionally top. Can you think of a way to rule in or out allergy? Is there any way to desensitize me from this? She does not use any products to clean that I know of other than soap and water and she does not 'reach' inside to clean with soap and water. She has been VERY tested for STD's (lots of them) (me too). She is on Yaz. (but this occurred before and after Yaz). She takes no other medications other than an occasional ambien. Can you think of anything I can do to rule in or out the trigger. Are women's fluids different for 'lubrication' than they are for orgasm? Can I get a sample of them (without intercourse) and just rub them on me for a few minutes to see if it produces the same reaction. This is really sort of offensive (if I were her)... but I need to track this down and fix it. We can certainly produce an orgasm without intercourse. I really appreciate the time you have spent with me on this.
I've got the same exact issue's with my X G/F. I broke up with her because I can't take the friction burns anymore! I truely believe it has something to do with her being a smoker, yuck! I'm guessing I'm allergic to her body fluids thats mixed with nicotine or something? I repeatedly tried to get her to quit smoking but she can't. I broke up with her awhile back and dated someone else and didn't have any problems with her. Then we got back together again and I started having problems again. I'm very sad over the whole situation because I really cared for her.
Hi I know this is probably waaaaaaaaayyyyyyy to late and u have probably figured out the problem but I am female and I give my boyfriend friction burns. I believe it is because of the hairs. I do have coarse hair so it makes it a little bit worse for my boyfriend but when he is rough the worse it is. When I shave and have a little stubble that burns him the worst. We have tried different positions to try to Prevent this from happening but we have only concluded that pretty much every position burns him except wen I ride him. Wat I do now is get it waxed and that lliminated the problem... I think that's pretty much the only way(unless u use a condom) Hope this helped somehow. And if not, I hope it helps anyone else with this problem.
This man is exactly right. I use to get these bumps from really good sex. She would get really wet but her PH was off so it would cause my penis to get the irritation bumps. Depending on the style of sex, will be where the bumps show up. I use to get them on the left side, and always around the same spot. I use vasaline aswell, and it goes away around 3-4 days. If you use a condom make sure you use a good lube or you will get the bumps in the same manner. Its all that hard sex, but it feels way to good to stop I understand.
Hmm. A strange situation indeed. You could try using a penis health creme every day. You say you have a "burn" after sex, and that leads me to believe you may just have sensitive skin down there. Lots of guys do. A good creme will repair that damaged skin and recondition it for future use. Just make sure you get a creme that is all natural. You do not want any weird side effects. Good luck.
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