HERPES I/II

I have a girlfriend whom Ive been intimate with since August. We always used protection, but being relatively new to intamicy it has been unerving due to all the stds ever present. I encourage my girlfriend to take a bloodtest along with me so we can be more fully confident in eachother. My bloodtest work came clean. my girlfriend on the other hand is positive for Type I and Type II HERPES. Her blood test work esentailly showed Herpes I/II IGG AB and both fields listed as positive nothing else. My blood work show a grid scale  with Reference interval: HSV 1 Ab , IgG (ELISA)  and same field for II with corresponding numbers representing antibody count. At the moment both me and her are going through an emotional whirlwind, we are both Juniors in college on top of which to increase the stress. She said she only been intimate twice in her life prior to me and both with protection. She said she never experience any outbreaks or anything abnormal. As for me one of the biggest frights I had during our relationship was when after taking a shower together we shared a towel and the only region I used it at was to wipe my buttocks, my anus to be precise which later went  after two or so days became inflamed  with a burning sensation. I visually inspected it with a mirror as paranoid as I was and couldnt see any sores or lesions. It lasted for about two or so weeks, hydrocortisone didnt seem to do anything to it, i tried lotrimin of all things and it seem to subsided. After this event a month pass and I finaly convinced my girlfriend to get tested. After the test two or three weeks passed since we were last intimate and I felt a burning sensation on my penis. I am uncircumsied so I pulled back the foreskin and it seemed as if my head expanded I freaked and went to the shower and poured freezing water on it which seemed to cool it down. The burning sensation persisted and as I pulled the foreskin back for a while it appeared to turn white like dust on top in a way or have white streaks at the same time my hands became unusually extreme flaky skin , nothing present no lesions or sores and knowing my gf was positive I went to the derm and showed him mine and my gf blood work and told him that as inexperence as I was with sex i used about 4 or 5 5 year old condoms since I ran out of new condoms. He prescribe clortimazole and betamethane cream and acyclovir as a precaution if it was my first outbreak which i used both and it seemed to go away time took about 7 days for the whole event of my penis. I even bought a magnifying glass to stare at it trying to find lesions, but none were present. As for using the 5 year old condoms I really never thought I would get intimate being as paranoid of stds as I am so I resolved to use the old condoms to be safe. My girlfrined reported around the same time that I had burning sensation that she as well started to get an ich in her vagina and she swares to me she never had that ich before and that after some over the counter vagina medicine she was fine. Its been well over a month now since we been intimate Ive been to lots of dermatologist and they all said all I can do is wait from 12 to 15 weeks for another blood test in order to conclusivly know if im infected or not ive been told by many a doctor that I should go see a therapist even before my girlfriend showed positive since I had one bllod work done prior to hers. My question is from what I described could it be possible from the two events I mentioned that I could be infected? And also since both me and my girlfreind had different test from the same lab, could it be possible that maybe she just has type I and not type II? She says she knows she has type I but type II she just cant understand because she only been intimate twice in her life and both times with condoms, she also said she did one of the men oral but was with condom as well totaling only three sexual instances in her life. For both of us its hard for us to belive she is positive when it seemed like she tried all she can do to be safe, and now the possibility exist that she may have infected me. I care for my girlfriend a lot but I am scared to be near her sometimes, for me she seemed so clean Its as if i couldnt tell that she had this and cant even tell where this could be on her, whether anywhere in her body if not vaginal. As for myself I feel like im the walking plague I am scared to be around my friends and family in the fear of giving them this disease because i feel i dont know where on my body this can be since i too tried to be safe the best i can and all perhaps in vain.

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A couple quick comments from someone who has HSV-1.

Get over freaking out.  It does you no good what so ever.  You can trust your girl or not.  She may have had more sex than she leads you to believe or maybe not.  Condoms are NO guarentee against herpes or other std's.  They are only a preventitive meassure.  Also, you do not have to have sex to get herpes.  Herpes can be spread by kissing or sharing a glass or a bottle with someone who has herpes or even by casual sexual contact.  People with herpes are only contageous when having an outbreak.  The virus lays dormant and will only show its ugly face from time to time.  Many, many people have herpes and don't know it because they do not have symtoms (symptoms).  These people can still pass it by having a asystematic outbreak (an outbreak without symtoms (symptoms)).  HSV-1 and HSV-2 are also interchangable meaning you can get HSV-1 (oral herpes) on you genitals and HSV-2 (genital herpes) on your lips.  It's about a 80 20% split for both.  People can also be born with herpes (mother had an outbreak during pregnancy).  About 50 to 80% of the adult population in the United States have oral herpes. About one in five adults in the United States has genital herpes; however, as many as 90% of these infected people don't know they have the virus.

With this in mind, my suggestion to you is to take care of yourselt by eating right, minimizing stress and protecting yourself as best as possible regarless if you have herpes or not.  Herpes has never caused a death.  It's simply something that can get on your nerves from time to time so should you suddenly test positive, it's by far not the end of the world!!!  As for your girlfriend, figure out if you love her or not.  If you do, herpes would not be a reason to leave her.  If you are unsure, obstain from sex or continue to use protection till you do know.  Again, that is not a guarentee.

Lastly, it only takes one exposure to get herpes so yes, technically you could get or have herpes from your description.  The test for herpes is strictly based on antibodies present in the body.  Although fairly reliable, they are not 100% but generally if you fall well in the possitive range, you got it.  Keep in mind that ANYONE can get it including your mother, your doctor or your best friend and most likely one of the three does in one form or the other so if you do, deal with it directly and don't stress about it.  And again, HSV 1 and 2 can be oral so either one of you could get it from exposure from kissing someone who has it... even if you can't see the sores.  

So... Become a priest or get over it.  It's a fact of everyday life.  If you continue to have symtoms (symptoms) and test negitive, see a doctor.

As for your girlfriend