Herpes generally sets up shop in one place. Once it's there, it recurs in that place but doesn't spread elsewhere, because antibodies in the bloodstream keep it from getting a toehold. (Otherwise, everyone with a cold sore would spread herpes all over the body every time they washed their face.)
You can get whitlow from touching someone's mouth who is shedding herpes (e.g. dentists, hygienists.) But most of the time, people with herpes anywhere have no real idea where it originally came from.
If recurrences are frequent or painful you should look into taking an oral antiviral pill wither all the time or as soon as an outbreak starts. Of course, you'll want to be absolutley sure (by culture of a fresh outbreak) that what you had was really herpes and not, say, bacteria.
Best.
Dr. Rockoff