Still Worried about Herpes- Please Help

I posted a question a few days ago about my worries about a herpes infection. This is an update on that. First of all, based on your experience, do you think I put myself at risk from that encounter?  I called the national std hotline several times and got some pretty equivocal information-most said that transmission of HSV-1 requires the mouth to touch the genitals, but I've seen medical reference information that it is even spread by "droplets in breath". I didn't notice any lesions on this woman's lips, but there's no way for me to know for sure-she could have been prodromal, shedding, etc.  
  The rash itself cleared up in about 4 days total, though it seemed like it was on its way to clearing up even sooner.  I am worried about the fact that though I never saw any blisters, there were a few pore-sized holes with a very small amount of what looked like water coming out of them.  (Not to be confused with weeping sores - just pinpricks of moisture.  I looked closely at the scotum today, and I THINK, but I'm just not sure, that I can still see at least some of these "pores", they're just not leaking any water anymore.  I.e. the skin in that area is healed and the pinpricks remain.  Does this make sense?  
The overall rash area itself looked red and POSSIBLY edematous- but not like a thin-walled blister, more like a deeper swelling.  
There were also one or maybe two slightly larger circular indentations, maybe barely 1/16th of an inch by 1/16th of an inch, that you could see if you stretched the scrotal skin tight, also emitting a pinprick sized amount of water.  ONE OF PARTICULAR CONCERN looked like a hair follicle with its top cut off.  I thought that's what it might actually be, but as it has healed, there doesn't appear to be a hair follicle in that spot.  What does that sound like?
About 2-3 days after I first noticed the rash, I was able to  rub off an overall area of dried skin in the shower with my thumb.  The skin came off like little pills of dried skin. That one particular 1/16th inch circular indentation, I hesitate to say scab, took longer to flake off. There's still a little redness in that spot, with maybe an ever-shrinking outline of the circular indentation remaining.
  I went to the emergency room on thursday night (48 hours after noticing rash), but there wasn't much of the rash to see at that point and the very young doctor barely glanced at it anyway, saying it was "probably nothing to worry about".  
But I AM still worried. This is killing me - I can barely sleep and I can't eat at all. So my questions are -  Have you seen something like this before? If so, what was it? Does it sound like herpes? Will an hsv-1 titer test (Igm?, Igg?) help determine whether this was an hsv-1 infection? Since I probably had oral hsv-1 as a child, will that make the test useless?  I don't know what to do but I know I can't live with this uncertainty and worry. PLEASE give this your fullest attention. Thank you

[Alan Rockoff, MD]

Look, I answered the first time that:
1) I can scarcely imagine that you cnotracted herpes the eay you describe; and
2) The penile changes don't sound like herpes.

Let me reiterate both these points.  Let me add further that there is no way for me or anyone to interpret sight unseen the meticulously and obsessively described skin changes in your note.

This brings me to the third point I made in my first anser:
3) Please see a dcotor so you can get a definite answer and stop thinking about this.  

This remains valid.  Antibody tests may furnish minor assistance, but what you need is a thorough clinical evaluation--in person.

Take care.  And please preserve your sanity by taking my advice.

Dr. Rockoff

[jannov]

Dear,
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