There is no such thing as something that "will not go away until squeezed." There is, however, such a thing that will not go away because you squeeze it. I suspect that the reason both of you have the same intractable problem is that both of you are under the simultaneous impression that when you get a bump, you have to squeeze it. When you squeeze an area vigorously, you can get all the changes you describe--crusts, scabs, draining sinuses, and so forth.
Now I expect that you will meet this suggestion with skepticism. So here's my advice: give it a try. For a period of 4 weeks, do not pick or squeeze your lesions--not ever, not even once. Instead, apply warm compresses with a washcloth and then put on bacitracin ointment (over-the-counter.) Other than that, don't change anything in your routine: the same soap, moisturizer, etc. I suggest you both do this in consultation with your skin doctor or doctors.
See if that doesn't solve your problem.
Best.
Dr. Rockoff
that was like 2 months ago and i havent did it sense but never noticed that when i whiped my back side after doing number two there was just a little bit of blood there thinking that it was just from the waste (poop) i payed it no mind. today i was taking a shower and was cleaning my back side with my hand and felt something like a bump thinking to myself maybe its from my shaven to closly but then i was feeling alittle more back there and felt two more then i was conserned so i took my compac miror and took a look at was i was feeling there where skin like bumps that where in fromt of and in back of my anus then scared i spread my cheeks and looked harder seeing some of the bumps that where in the front and back of the anus in the inside i panic and look for my doctors number but the thing is that it is a sunday and they are not open so i came to this site to look for alittle help what can this be that i have in and on my anus it is no where else but on my anus and so im thinking maybe it is a skin infection from haven anol performed on me. if there is anyone that can relate or is maybe going through the same thing or went throw this please email me a.s.a.p at ***@****
Thank You very much Maria
I am not sure what they are--perhaps blocked oil glands. But there is no way a doctor will be able to tell if the bumps are picked.
Dr. Rockoff
If I were you I would at least try to eliminate whatever aciddy food you are digesting, at least try that. I figured it out by process of elimination and have not had a tomato in 20 something years, oh, and NO big bump that won't go away either. I called it a risien (sp?).