Why do you think that
recurrentRecurrent cystitis irritation is oral herpes? In my experience,
recurrentRecurrent cystitis infection is just that--irritation. On the penis this is aggravated by friction, sex, and so forth. Negative tests at 3 months are reliable. You can get a herpes 1 test, I suppose, but a positive test for herpes 1 does not localize the infection--to the penis or anywhere else. (You could have had an oral herpes outbreak and have positive herpes 1 titers.
What you should do is confirm that the herpes 2 e=test you had was of the reliable kind, and ask the doctor who ordered them to examine you when the irritation is there so you can get a definitive diagnosis.
At some point you may well be able to come to terms with the fact that you don't have herpes.
Best.
Dr. Rockoff
Dr. Rockoff