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Methods for treating diabetes have improved so much over the last 40 yerars that maintaining near normal blood sugars is quite achievable. This means that the risk of developing complications can be virtually eliminated without relative ease.
I am 48 years old and have been a T1 for 27 years. I don't have any significant complications. A tiny micro aneurism was picked up in my last eye test. But it should have cleared up by the time I have the next eye test done. I have reduced my HBA1c substantially during the last 12 months.
I won't allow complications to reduce my quality of my life for at least another 27 years. I have the required determination and all the tools I need to engineer this outcome. And so does your wife.
In fact, things should get easier for her as the technology develops. Some really exciting developments are in the pipeline.
Cheers,
Mark
Some of the sobering statistics on diabetes mortality, come, in my opinion (I"m not a physician but have had diabetes 35+ years), from the many hundreds of thousands of diabetics who do NOT take care of themselves. Some cannot afford to; some remain in denial; some lack the support & encouragement to stay the course even when times are tough (that's where loving hubbies have a bit role!); some (mostly Type 2s) do not know they have disease and suffer the horrible complications without knowing.
If you & your wife make good health a priority, you will grow old together. A healthy diabetic lifestyle is pretty much what's recommended for normal folks, too. I haven't seen any data on this, but I'd be willing to bet that diabetics who take good care of ourselves outlive our nonDiabetic peers who have the "luxury" to eat whatever they want whenever they want ;-)
Learn all you can.
I'm not diabetic, but my husband of 10 yrs is. Our situations sound very similar. We were married when we were 25 and he's been T1 since he was 14... 20 years now. It is challanging at times to be married to a person affected by diabetes. And I too, was scared about losing him sooner than I should. I'm not so much anymore. He is very good about keeping tight control on his levels -- and that's for himself as well as for me. Making it easier on us both. He goes to the dr. every 3 mos to get his a1c tests taken. And I watch after him, not nagging (well sometimes, it can't be helped. :-) ), but just letting him know I'm worried and it's because I love him. I need to remind myself that it really is harder on him, although I sometimes get the brunt of his bad days. Together, we can help him to be healthier today, which will make him stick around longer for tomorrow.
And this web site is a great place to be. I read here several times a week, just to hear other peoples stories, advice and problems. We've used several pieces of information here and applied it to our lifestyle.
Please, keep a positive attitude and take one day at a time. And, really, contact me if you have a question or need to vent, being a spouse is quite trying sometimes, let alone being the spouse of a T1 -- no offense to the T1's out there... it's just apart of our lives!! Wouldn't give up my Hubby for anyone...! :-)
(Zeke: don't know if I'm allowed to give my email out here.... I'll look back for a post from you....)
take care,
mlz
I just wanted to say, keep your hopes up! It is highly likely that your wife will live for a very long time. My father was diagnosed at 3, and he made it 43 years (he was 46 when he passed away), even with his first 26 years being out of control. So, first off, if your wife, or anyone else for that matter, is not in control, please do get in control. As my pediatric endocrinologist told me when I was diagnosed, "There is no way to reverse the complications of out-of-control diabetes, however, by getting your diabetes back in control, you stop the complications dead in their tracks." I'm not sure if this is still true or not, but it is something that I think about often. Also, especially with all of the advancements in technology now (like the one MiniMed is working on, hoping to have out in a few years, where the pump is implanted and the bg machine you use sends to the pump how much insulin you need for corrections, and you use an RF device to punch in the numbers), there is sure to be unlimited possibilities in all of our futures for a happy, healthy life. Keep your chin up, and most importantly, cherish each and every moment you have with anyone you love :)
~vprrchk
Thanks for the reassurances. I'm reading on as a parent of a very young Type 1 diabetic, and the short life-expectancy spectre crosses my mind, too, occasionally.
Clearly, however, BG control is vital. Since it's the only thing we can control, it's the best thing to focus on.
Good luck zeke,
Tony
Maybe it will help her too. She's very lucky to have you to care for her.
But good blood glucase control is paramount to living the best life with diabetes. i also have bipolar disorder and when my mental health issues weren't controlled by medication when i would have manic or depressed episode i certainly wouldn't take care of myself. i have some complication, mostly nerve damage and control both my bipolar disorder and diabetes. But i don't feel like i'll die soon and intend on being there for my wife for a long time to come. Wishing you the best, bret
Whether or not you believe in God i don't know. However it is GOD who decides when a person's time has come to leave this world.
Believe me, if God want's someone's soul to leave this world, (when he decides that that person's time has come) he has many ways of carrying this out. This is regardless of how healthy and in-shape one is. I don't care if he/she
works-out for 16 hours a day, eat's broccoly and takes ten million vitamin's, the same bullet will penetrate his butt (excuse me) as well!
What you mentioned about a diabetics average life expectancy of 61 years, is like saying that the average life expectancy of someone who drives a car is about three month's.
How many people die per year from car-accidents? how many in fire? flood's? crime? water? poisoning?
You can see clearly, that regardless of how in-shape and healthy you are, it is GOD who decides when your time has come.
How many "healthy" people died in the recent tzunami?
Obviously one would rather not have diabetes, but bear in mind that GOD gives everyone equal problem's, and furthermore he only gives one a problem if he know's that he/she can handle it.
And on the contrary, i think that you should respect your wife, for this showes that she is emotionally capable of handling what billion's of people cannot!!!
If you have any question's such as "why god had to pick me?" or "why is god doing this to me?" I suggest you visit www.meaningfullife.com and order the book "toward a meaningful life". you might even be able to find the answers on the site itself.
Good luck!