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While I'm much older than you now, I can *really* relate to your question ... and your evolving maturity to even ASK the question.
In general, this boils down to "how can I have fun with my pals while managing this chronic, potentially debilitating (if I don't take care of me) disease?" I was diagnosed at about your age and I know it can feel lonely that you now have this extra burden that your pals don't (seem to) have. Teens want to fit in with one another, and sometimes other teens don't yet have the compassion to be true friends. You might already have had the experience of a "friend" dumping you for some frivolous reason, even before diabetes; often it's a "cooler" friend comes along, a rumor, or or or.
When I was just a few years older than you and already in college, I used pot fairly often for "fun" times. While the drug itself didn't seem to affect my blood sugar, it pretty well destroyed my judgment and willpower to say no to snacks. Thus, it became harder for me to "have fun" cuz someplace in the back of my mind, I was so very scared. Since I was older and my friends were, too, I was able to talk about my issues and I was SHOCKED to find out that anohter girl was dealing with a serious health issue, too and that on the whole they were very interested, compassionate and protective of me. Of course, the hard-core partiers were threatened a bit my not wanted to continue on that path -- and gradually I realized that, despite my desire that they like me ... they didn't.
How odd it seems (as a grownup now) that their so-called friendship was apparently only based on my wilingness to break the law with them, and to risk ending up in the ER "for them." I'm certain that THOSE folks would have been completely useless if I'd slipped into a coma from being either too high or low.
I know from my own teen that "warnings" about what might happen in the future seem unrelated to what she & her pals think about. She lost one friend to a DWI crash this year; another is forever mentally incapacitated due to a drug-related accident that didn't kill him but caused severe, permanent brain damage. My teen has permanent facial scar and hip pain from a drug-related auto crash, where she was thrown from a car.
The point seems to be that eventually, in our ways (thru tragic personal experience or thru the ability to learn from others' tragic personal experiences), we realize that lifestyles based on self-medication for pain, stress, and yearning-to-fit in ... they can never bring us happiness and success.
Such happiness and feelings of success require us to deal a bit with our demons (teens have lots of them: divorces, step-families, fears in schools, wondering about the future, money, security) and diabetic teens face even more (will I die from this? [not when we take care of ourselves :-) ], will I feel better? what will my pals think? who ARE my real pals? who'll help me when I need help? who can I talk to about all this? ...
I encourage you to find a trusted grownup in your life and gradually contront & work thru the things that're stressing you. You can create a wonderful, rich, healthy life surrounded by PILES OF FRIENDS who care about you as much as you care about them and will BE THERE to encourage you thru the hard times and help you celebrate your successes -- wihtout risking danger.
I hope you choose to take some of this to heart -- it comes from mine...
I am under very good control, i dont think i have had a high, or a low, in 3 months, and i am always quite careful about what i eat. My friends all know i have diabeties, and most of them are aware of what to do in a Low situation.
But anyway, thanks alot, and any other comments or replys will be very mcuh appriciated, and i plan on using this site more often for qusetions and concerns.
There are few situations more devastating than being at the wrong place/party at the wrong time when angry parents or neighbors or cops show up. At that point, there's no amount of pleading that can protect you from those consequences.
Sooo, at age 15ish now -- you're probably a sophomore? Hope you're beginning to think about college -- at least a little bit. Sure it's a coupla years off, but doing good stuff like sports or drama or clubs or volunteer work (which is very very cool for young people) in school can help add some pizzazz in addition to doing your very best in your school subjects. I'm a college professor now. :-)
I'm also so glad you're interested to read stuff here. Y'know, feel free to post comments when you have an opinion about other folks' comments or questions. That's what we're all encouraged to do here -- so we can learn from one another. Newbies (like you -- a new diabetic) and oldies (like me ~35 years!), teens & adults. I think that PumpGirl who writes here is a teen, too.
The www.jdrf.org site has PILES of info, too -- including some special links for teens. Keep taking good care of you -- and great to find & keep close to trusted adults. They'll help you navigate the rocky waters of growing into a strong young adult. (While we adults on this site are a good source of info, in general, when I advise young people to find trusted adults I suggest they look in their school, church, neighborhood, family, etc ... real people who cannot trick teens or hide behind "cyber-personalities.")
All the best, GMoney:-)
My son was diagnosed at eight and had alot of issues with friends dealing with his diabetes. When he was your age, he also tried pot once and awhile and found he couldn't tell when he was getting low. Thank goodness he never had an episode that required medical intervention. I just spoke with him about your question and dealing with friends. He was lucky that he had a few very close people that really cared about him. I'm sure you do too. On the positive side, my son gave me a different perspective on true friendship. When he turned 21 he became the designated driver when everyone went to clubs to dance. He is very proud of this and his friends are greatful. g, he also told me to tell you that while he is a little older than you now, don't let so called "friends" influence your behavior. Your diabetes and health should be your number one concern. True friends will stick with you. As a Mom, if you find your having problems with drugs or alcohol, please tell someone your concerns. If you don't feel free to talk to your parents ( I hope you can), then maybe a councelor at school, your doctor or a helpline. Let us know how your doing and if we can help in anyway, we will.
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I also thought id bring something up. I have a buddy of mine, who ive known for a few years, who is also a diabetic. I look at him as what NOT too do. He Drinks, Does Mush, Smokes Weed, Smokes Cig's, Dosnt care what he eat's, etc. I can see that guy going blind when he's 20. He crashed at my house one night, and his sugar before he went to bed was 17(i know u americans use it in higher ratings) While mine was 5. I just look at him, see what he does, and try to do the opiosit
For a while i was the one who was always sick, always a state and it was great. It didnt affect my diabetes. So then i discovered weed which i liked better, could control easier and had more fun with.
I went to a party and got into trouble with police so my parents refused to buy me booze anymore. Weed waas easier to get hold off so i started blazing rapidly rather than drinking.
Then i started drinking again and just this weekend drank so much that i went into a coma and DKA (diabetic ketos acidosis (or something)) so now my parents wont let me go out or drink at all.
It's made me very depressed, ruined my christmas + new year + social life, means i cant get stoned anymore coz she'll think ive been drinking.
The moral of the story is drink and weed is fine for diabetics as long as you're not irresponsible like i was coz it bites you in the ***.