Yeah, I am wondering the same thing. Does it come back in time or what?? (the sex drive)
I have the same problem. My fiancee was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes about 6 months ago. It seemed as if he lost his sex drive, and same thing as you, he says it's not that he doesn't want it. He doesn't have a problem getting an erection either. I was also angry and blamed myself, but thats the only problem in our relationship, everything else, emotional is all perfect.
Since he is taking insulin his blood sugars are being controlled, however he still hasn't gottan much of a sex drive back. What is it he is doing wrong? Will it be like this forever? Help!?!
Hello Alyel,
We're not physicians here, but we have a lot of experience with diabetes.
Sexual dysfunction can be a side-effect of uncontrolled diabetes and it is a particularly emotional & difficult complication for many. Sexual dysfunction can have other root causes (physical, stress, emotional, health), however, and so it is VERY important that he get a throrough exam, including full blood tests to determine what's what.
I know you didn't come here for a relationship analysis ;-), and yet your comment, "... of course, I was angry with him, thinking I was the problem..." painted a troubling picture for me.
To an outsider like me, the comment suggests some deeper communication issues that I'd encourage you both to work on -- long before seriously considering marriage. A healthy sex life is a wonderful aspect of marriage; however, it rarely emerges \when there are layers of unspoken anger, frustration, trust, fear or hostility over other "things."
There's so much for a woman & man to learn about one another's differing communication styles and needs. Learning "that stuff" will help in every aspect of relationship -- particularly when dealing with difficult health issues and other big stressors. A response of "anger" to a stated health concern suggests there's lots of room for improvement ...
In closing then, in addition to his need for a good medical workup & to learn a LOT about whatever the doctor finds, see what you can do to improve the "safety" of good communication.
Many health issues are treatable and yet doing so requires 24*7 commitment and strong support, patience and encouragement by those closest to us. Communications issues are also VERY fixable. I hope you & your boyfriend will work together on both fronts and that you will enjoy very satisfying results for many years to come.