abortion

[bibi]

How bad are the effects when you have an abortion?

[Concerned lady]

To all you wonderful people: BRAVO!

I'm a women's libber who doesn't like abortion for all the reasons you folks gave!

There are alternatives to abortions. Follow the great advice of all these good people here! :-)

Sincerely, Concerned lady

[sweetheart856]

A related discussion, abortion was started.

[feelbetter]

What about the decision that is right for the unborn baby? I am sorry but they can see in to the womb so much more than they could when abortion was legalized and they told us it was a bunch of cells. They even do operations on unborn fetus's now. I saw a pic where the little 20 week old baby grabbed the doc's gloved finger. I know it is a terrible place to be. I didn't want to say earlier because my kids might read this over my shoulder but I have been where you are and I had an abortion almost 19 years ago. Not one person (I was in college at the time) gave me any other advice except to abort. If it is really a choice, why don't they give you ALL of the options? I wanted to kill mysef after! I am telling you, it was bad. I have 4 kids now and I had some problems in my pregnancy and lost 2 babies. With my last 2 they did ultrasound at 5 weeks and excitedly told me look there is the beating heart. This one should make it. What, should we only be happy about a beating heart if the child is wanted and convienent? If I knew you and you lived near me, I would do ANYTHING to help you make another choice. I am sorry about sounding off on a gastro board but I still feel emotional about this after all these years. I know that legally it is your choice but there are options other than abortion. I really do wish you all the best.

[needabreak]

God bless you feelbetter for sharing.  Bibi, I believe that you were led to this forum for a reason.  EVERY unborn child deserves to be loved, nurtured and protected.  If you don't feel that you can do it, there is someone that will.  The "SAFEST" place a child can be, SHOULD be it's own mother's womb.  DO the right thing.  I'm praying for you (and the baby).

[auntfufu]

It's a life, not a choice.  Don't do it.  It's murder.

[spagofreep]

I chose to end my pregnancy on April 13, I also happen to be a med school student.  The physical after effects for me were not that bad, however, everyone is different.  For me, it was like having my period.  They will give you methergine or ergonovine, both of which cause the uterus to contract back down to its normal size and help to stop bleeding after the procedure.  I recommend choosing the twilight anesthesia (a combination of valium and demerol), which will greatly reduce discomfort during and after the procedure.  Chances are you will not remember anything about it.  You will feel very groggy, but that will wear off in a few hours.  

You have to make the decision that is right for you, NOT the decision that is right for anyone else.  Seek help and unbiased counseling to aid you in your decision.  Talk to family and friends that you feel comfortable with.  They are there to help you with whatever decision you make.  Good luck to you.

[Beaker]

There are all kinds of alternatives to abortion.  Find someone who you feel has YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART and don't be afraid to ask for help.  Sometimes fear keeps us away from the ones who love us the most.  If necessary, call one of the help lines,many times they will be able to get you in contact with someone who will be willing to help you.  Have faith, there are some folks out here that do care.  I am a mother of a 19 year old son who is adopted.  I thank God everyday for the opportunity that his biological mother has given me.  It took great courage to give up her child to a total stranger but this dear lady is in our prayers every day for giving us her gift.  What ever you do, don't give up hope.  Everyone of us on the face of this earth has made a mistake. Don't allow it to be the reason you choose one way or another.  Now is the time to become informed.  Learn where, who, and when you need to get matters taken care of.  Try to remember that you do not have time to waste.  If you cannot talk to you parents, go to a minister, priest, rabbi or someone you trust to help you.  This is not a secret you want to keep to yourself.  Don't forget it also took another person to have this happen.  Tell him to help you!  You are not alone in this situation.  I know you are scared but the worse thing you can do is to beat yourself up.  Now is the time to face those responsiblities and take control of your life.  What ever you do think about it first.  ***@**** If you need me.

[maxie24]

The effects are bad after an abortion, not to mention the emotional fallout.....Good Luck and God Bless You

[feelbetter]

I have 3 friends who had abortions over 10 years ago and they still feel sad about it every year around the time of the anniversary of the abortion. You may be fine physically afterwards but consider the emotional side of this too. I hope everything works out for you, there are other options. Best wishes.

[INALOTOFPAIN]

I am a male and not one of those freaks who bomb clinics nor am I one of those liberals who say its all ok, but I ll say this: At 20 I had all kinds of things going for me, I met a girl and I  got her pregnat, we thought about what was the best thing to do, she didnt really like me and I....well, make story short, ten years later, my daughter has totally and completely changed my life forever, although I am in ALOTOFPAIN due to my med condition she really trully brightens my day. Now, at this moment it may seem to you as if your world is falling appart but it will change I know and it will be to the better I gurantee it. If you have troubles now, your baby will bring peace and serenety, if you re lost, your baby will give you guidense, if you have no meaning he/she will bring purpose to your life, it most certainly did for me. As for the things you feel you ll miss now, it can all be arranged (in a healthier) kinda way, I never stopped partying in a now more responsible way, well I guess I can go on and on and on but I know you will feel better for the rest of your life if you do the right thing now.

Best wishes

[needabreak]

Physical problems (with the surgical method) range from bleeding, hemorrhage, laceration of the cervix, bladder or bowel perforation, menstrual disturbances, infection, sterility, and sometimes death (sorry, but you asked).   Despite the use of local anesthesia, 97% of women having an abortion, report experiencing pain during the procedure, of which more than a third describe it as "intense" or "severe".  Long term, women who have an abortion, face an increased risk of ectopic (tubal) pregnance and a more than doubled risk of future sterility.  The particular type and severity of complications depend on the experience of the abortionist and the method used.  Complication rates for chemical techniques may be somewhat different.  
   There is strong evidence that abortion increases the risk of breast cancer before the age of 45 by 50%.  Psychological effects range from depression, feeling of no self-worth, mental trauma, to nightmares, divorce and even suicide.
   There are alternatives.  Look in the yellow pages under "Abortion Alternatives" or call toll-free, 1-800-848-LOVE.

[Lor]

I've never had one, but have friends who did. It is pretty much the same as having a D&C which you only have a little bleeding. Depending on how far along you are it could be as much as a period. Also there can be some milk leaking from breasts, but again that depends on how far along you are. They should put you to sleep.