I am in the same exact boat you are!!!!!
I am 31 years old and I am a stay at home mom with 2 kids, 7 and 2.
I have been suffering from major stress and panic attacks for 2 years now.
My husband was like yours up until recently. He thought I sat around watching soap operas and eating bon bons!
For a while, the change in me brought on great depression. The anxiety I was feeling was making me feel so bad.
So when I didn't feel like doing the dishes, I didn't do them. And when he got home, he would get pissed because, like he said, "I work all day and your job is to take care of the house!" Its hard to take care of a messy house with 2 kids when you feel emotionally and physically lousy.
Anyway, my husband has finally come around. He admitted that he can't understand how I'm sane with all that goes on at our house!
Now he helps out.
I take Zanax when I feel pretty stressed out. I do have a lot of stomach problems because of all this. Constant burning in my stomach, chest pain, heartburn, acid reflux, you name it, I got it!
I'm going to an ENT on Tuesday because something in my throat keeps swelling up.
I'm sure its from stress.
Anyway, I hope you feel better.
Tell you husband that its in everyone's intrest that you get a break. If you become sick, then what??
Please email me if you would like to talk.
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Hi i have tried to tell my husband about doing some stuff around the house and he just says he cant he works all day he acts like i have an easy job.I do think my medicale problems are from stress. I dont know of anyone who has to deal with as much as i do on a day to day basis.Ill try to take your advise and see how things go. Your wife is a lucky lady to have such a careing husband I wish mine was as careing as some men i know.Yhanks for careing.
From the sound of your letter,you are very stressed.I am not a doctor,but your day to day activities are more than one person should have to deal with.Take care of your self,and everything else will fall into place.Let your husband deal with some of the household chores.MAKE him take you on a weekend vacation,for you.I have had a liver transplant,and know the affects being stressed can cause on the immune system.Don't wait for problems to develop,if you can prevent them now.I was recovering from my transplant,taking care of 3 teenagers,and taking care of a wife addicted to pain medication.WAY TO MUCH,I have had to learn to priorities my life,as you should.Everything worked out,my wife has 122 days clean,and the children learned to be a lot more independent.We only have one chance,and if your husband really LOVE'S you he will make exceptions and help you work out these difficulties.Take care of yourself and I would be willing to bet that most of your problems will deminish or disappear.If not make the doctor earn his money.
Take Care