Broke up with my boyfriend for 5 years

[Rockabillycherry]

Hi everyone,
well here is my problem. I recently just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years . We were highschool sweethearts you can pretty much say that we did everything together. I always felt that after highschool things would be completely blissful but i was wrong. I started to notice he would act very strangely towards me examples he stopped calling me, he wouldn't come by my house anymore and he was more secretive. I started to get suspicious and I found out that he was smoking pot behind my back knowing that it hurt me that he did it. I would ask him to stop but he refused to "conform" to a regular lifestyle. I couldn't take the pressure of it anymore so I broke it off. But now I found myself missing him terribly because we were each others first in EVERYTHING! We still talk to each other like friends but I miss him so much but I just could not see myself to be with a POTHEAD! I love him but I just feel so lost! I dont know what to do....

[jo929]

you really need to date some other guys you started out to eary with him and the new has worn off, try dating others for awhile until you are a little older then you will really know what you want you are to young to settle down just yet enjoy being young awhile you will get old soon enough, also you just may meet Mr Right dont get stuck with a pothead.   luck  jo

[Rockabillycherry]

Thank you so very much for your advice I appreciate it very much! I guess the reason why I "love" him is because he was my first boyfriend. I really saw the guy as my best friend really. I could confide in him with anything. But I really feel leaving highschool has had a toll on him he was making great progress and its like he had gone bac to acting like a 14 year old or something. At the moment I really dont have my mind on someone else because I dont want to rebound on someone you know. Im trying to keep my mind focused on college and work but i find myself thinking of him constantly. I really dont want a pot head!!!! That is not for me but what I do remember is that there was a point when he had stopped using and for some strange reason he went back. I really thought that breaking up with him would make him realize the mistake he was making but it hasn't and recently I've found that he just keeps using and using I feel very exhausted Im to my limits already what should I do now?

[jo929]

Keep your good memories but concentrate on an education and what you want for the future he may need to further his education also think on these things while you are young  luck  jo

[Rockabillycherry]

Thank you so every much on taking the time and helping me with this situation. I guess i've come to realize that this is not the ned but the start of a new beginning! what you said about being with a pot head really had an impact on me but not in the bad way! after reading your post yesterday i started to see things in a different light! from my knowledge he still continues what he wants but that is his problem not mind! Thanks so very much!