Digging my own grave

I guess everyone posting here has much more significant relationships than mine but i just wanted some feedback. My boyfriend and I were together just over 5 months and he broke it off with me last night. (before we dated we were best friends for 2 years and liked each other at least a year of that time) The past 2 days I kinda fell into this funk where I felt like he settled for me because I don't find myself as attractive as the last 2 girls he liked. I told him I didn't want to be settled for and I definitely didn't want him to settle for less than he deserved. He insisted that he wanted to be with me and everything but then said "I guess you want to let go of what we had and I'll give you the time without me and you'll realize we should be together. This will be one of the biggest regrets of your life though telling me to move on." I didn't want him to break up with me I just got into one of my depressed breakdown moods. I don't know what to do and I really don't want to be without him but he's not responding to anything I send him. We go to different colleges so it's hard for me to approach him to talk in person. Anyone have any suggestions. This is my first relationship and now my first break up so I have no idea what to do.

[redneckmom]

If he was your best friend for two years, he wasn't settling.  I have never settled for a best friend.  Best friends love eachother.  If from that you dated for 5 months and he seemed happy, he wasn't settling.  Why is it you think he settled?  

If he told you he was going to give you time, he is going to give you time.  He isn't going to answer your calls, or emails, or texts.  He is going to leave you alone.  This could be one of two things:  he really loves you and wants you to think on your own, or he wants to be alone because he doesn't want to be with you.  I believe after the friendship and dating, he wants you to think on your own, without his influence.  

One thing I have noticed:  men don't like it when we talk bad about ourselves and about their exes.  They don't like it when we compare ourselves to their exes.  It makes them uncomfortable.  To be honest I wouldn't like it either. Maybe he felt that you were never going to be happy enough because you thought his exes were so much better than you.  Honey, if they were, then they wouldn't be his exes.  Another thing, most men like a confident women.  No matter your size or shape, he knew what you looked like before dating you.  He chose to date you, nobody forced him to do it.  Don't act like he didn't have the choice, it will probably tick him off.  He may be angry that you are telling him how he feels.  He knows how he feels, and if he says he loves you he probably does.  There is no need to argue about that and make him feel he will have to talk about it all of the time.  

Take this time to think about if he really is the one for you.  Something to keep in mind: he left you when you were feeling down about the relationship.  You have to decide how you feel about that.  I wouldn't like it.  

[chigirl29]

It sounds like he has had this on his mind for a while and your depressed mood about the relationship gave him an easy out--without looking bad or harsh.  I would move on--
Hope you get to feeling better.

[dove3053]

I would move on. There a plently of other great guys out there.

Dove