End of the Line

After 10 years, much filled with verbal abuse, I've decide it's time my wife and I go our separate ways...I've been referred to  as stupid A$$**** 1 too manytimes, ******* idiot 1 too many times and had stuff that happened 10 years ago thrown in my face too many timess..

Background:  I being a male, have always had a habit (good or bad) of looking at other women as they walk by....it
bugs her and so I've tried to stop..I continue to treat her like a queen but about every 2 weeks hear about this and it
turns into a major fight...last night took the cake.

6-9 months ago I started looking at porn on the computer (no, not child porn), then stopped..my wife asked me one
night if I had been, I answered "yes" and I haven't heard the end of that..I understand the offense she took and I swore to her I'd never do it again which I haven't.

But it's continually thrown in my face and last night it really blew up, told me she hated me, not to expect sex from her anymore (haven't had any for 2 years) and it might be best if I get out..

Now, folks...I'm not perfect...I'm the first to admit I've made mistakes and I've done the best I can to rectify them, but I'm afraid I just can't take it anymore....and I've decided I'm leaving.

The question I have (I live in New Hampshire) is..I have a fairly decent inheritance due in a few weeks...would she be entitled to any of that?

My intention is to use part of the  inheritance to pay the bills off, sign over my co-ownership of the house to her and be done...there are no minor children, and to the best of my knowledge no alimony in NH..  And then head south.

can anyone think of any other legal worries?


Jim

[mami1323]

I'm not sure if she has any rights.  You may be able to consult an attorney for advice.  

I'm sorry Jim, I know you've tried your hardest to make it work.  But you are right, no one deserves to be abused in any way and frankly, I could understand your wife's bitterness and hurt if the things you had done were worse.  In my eyes, you are a saint if you haven't cheated on her since you've gone 2 years without having sex.  I don't know of any guy who would remain faithful if they didn't have sex on a regular basis.  So I commend you for that.  I can check with my mother, she is a lawyer to see what the legalities are when it comes to inheritance.  I will get back to you.  

If you don't mind me asking, what's south that you would want to move to?

[doggylove]

Hello
I think I am the female version of you
I have been married for 4 years (I am 27) and my husband is very jealous and brings things up that I did when we first got married. He treats me like a child and he ha total control of everything. He hates it if I even talk casually about another guy......
We haven't had sex in 1 1/2!!! because HE is tressed out. I am so done with him but I am trying to save money and get my ducks in a row so I can leave.

Unfortunately he found out that I was going ot leave and he does everything in his power to keep money from me and try to make it so I depend on him (he never wanted me to work) I too also have an inheritance coming but we signed a prenup so I know that it is mine.......legally I think it depends on a lot of factors like did she work, children, how long you've been married, is she capable of working. You might have to support her for a little while until she can get on her feet again.