Help!! What should i do???

May 1 2003 i had brain surgery to remove a brain tumor on brain stem. Doctors removed 90% of it.I'm doing fine today but my biggest problem is how this has effected my life!!!!! I'm a 36 yr male that was married for 10yrs 2 boys good marriage until this!! I'm divorced now cuz i ran in fear from my family who did nothing but support me. I thought i was done and my time was up in life.I didn't want to see my family suffer during my hard times i left with the hopes of my now ex wife to go out and find somebody else......that would be there for my family when i'm gone my replacement sounded like a great idea in my head!!!! Man was i wrong i'm with somebody else now and my ex she hasn't moved on.
But i miss my ex so so much..is this screwed up or what i know i can get back together with her and rebuild our family should i??? if so how should i explain this to the person i'm with now. Or is my brain just fried please help this has been driving me nuts

[mayflowers]

Go back with your ex.  Explain what happened to your current girlfriend.  She might not like it but hey, she will live I'm sure.  Call your ex and see if she wants to get back together.  You both might need councilling but it will be worth it.

Good luck.

[everyminutelive]

Go back to your wife!!! She is the mother of your boys, go back to your family.

[treazzure007]

She still wants you?  She's your ex wife?  She's the mother of children?  You still love her?  Hurry and get back with her!  Congrats on your operation too.

[matty18]

Ok i know this looks pretty bad on my half,but my brain has been messed with my thought process hasn't been the best since surgery. i wish i would have done group therapy instead of trying to make myself out to be mr.strong guy when in fact i wasn't i was at my lowest point in life!!! my life was changed all with in a months time.This was a devastating blow to my family lifestyle, being laid up after surgery for 5 months hurt us in more than one way.as it would any other family for the first time in my life i was helpless i had to rely on other people... money was very tight, so imagine what that would do to any family.i had no pride left. no hope and depressed  i RAN!!! has anybody been here before can my ex and i make this work or do you think the damage is way to far for fixxing.

[mayflowers]

I haven't been through a situation like yours but I think there is hope.  A brain tumor is a pretty serious thing, I can understand you running.  It's not like you were cheating on her.  You were scared.  

Yes, there is HOPE for you and your wife.

[Nicole092907]

I think you should go back to your ex.  I think she would understand why you did what you did and through theraphy can make it work again.  Sounds like you both still love each other.  So go make it happen.

[jo929]

This is your decision to make and yours alone, be honest with both partys involved, but make sure what you want, No one can tell you what to do, your heart can tell you, and make the decision and stick to it untill the end. dont blame it on your surgery, it is your decision to make so do it  luck jo