How do I know its over?

I have been living with my boyfriend for 5 years now and all winter I have been shying away from the idea that I might want to end the relationship.  We used to have a great connection, and I was definitly head over heels in love with him, I would imagine our lives together in the future and he was always central to my plans.  But now I am a lot more reluctant to share.  Whenever I try to express what I am feeling I feel like I come across as so selfish, because I dont want to share my money or my time or my decisions with him.  I still love him, there are plenty of times when I look at him and know that I absolutly love him.  But there is no sexual attraction anymore, and I am not happy with how things are.  I have tried to talk to him about this because I dont want to just throw everything away, but his stance is that he loves me and wants to spend his life with me and have a family with me.  It is so hard to honestly tell him my reservations without hurting him, without saying bluntly, I dont know if i want that too?  How do I know whats right?  What if I break his heart and then regret it?  How do I decide whats important?.  I guess I just feel so overwhelmed, I dont want to stay together for the wrong reasons, nor breakup for the wrong reasons either.  Im only 24, this is my first and only relationship and I am lost.  

[bluestarmom187]

It sounds like you have let the relationship become more of a habit than anything else. I suggest really having a hart to hart. You both need to come to terms with what is wrong and if you can overcome it or not. If you both can not agree to work hard at getting the fire back if possible then you need to talk about if you are both ready to walk away.
Best wishes.

[macplaya]

if u tell him the truth maybe u will feel better<cause if u continue to live a lie then u will forever be stressed out and unhappy so gne ahead and tell him .i promise u willl feel a whole lot better

[crissy578]

I think that if you cared for him at all, you would let him know how you are feeling. I have been where you are before, and I found it better to just let the man know that I wasn't that into him anymore. Honesty is always key. Instead of him being mad at me, he respected that I was woman enough to let him know how I felt. That being said we both moved on with our lives and we are both married to other people now. We still are the best of friends, but we just knew that our lives wouldn't go further if we both were not on the same page.