I STILL CAN LET GO OF MY EX

well basically i was in my longest relationship with my ex
which was my first love.
Everything was soo perfect
we were great for eachother
wed spend almost everyday of our life together
going to the movies, eating at resturaunts, going to theme parks with friends, you name it
it was all too good to be true.
i was her first in everything
first gf etc
it was bliss.
after awhile problems started uprising
she started having trust issues
because other girls would flirt with me
and i do admit
id flirt back.
honestly i wasent relationship material
ive cheated on everybody that ive been with.
so this was the first time that i dident cheat
inawhile.
we started arguing more which eventually drove me to cheat on her with a old crush of mine
and i told her about it
but she still stayed with me
but tole me that she was no longer inlove with me which was totally understnadable.
day after day she started becoming more and more distant
started coming home later and later
until i finally realized that she was cheating on me.
confrunted her about it
she admitted to it.
it literally broke me.
btw. we were engaged.
gave her the ring back
was depressed for monthes, couldent stop crying, the worst heartbreak ever.
shed call me or text me claiming that she still loved me but that she couldent be with me because someone else won her heart.
i tried to move on countless times but everytime i would try too she would always come back into my life and would want me back.
i fell for it eachtime.
after about a year i dont talk to her anymore
she has texted me one in the last 2 monthes thats about it.
im currently in a serious relationship
im very inlove with this person like i was with my ex
but i still cant let her go...
i think about her atleast 2-3 times a day
even if i dont wanna talk about her or think about her
i still do.
i just wanna move on with my new life
im thinking that i need sum closure to properly end this?
any advice would be appreciated.
btw. im currently dealing with anxiety/panic attacks
due to this =(

[mami1323]

Have you tried writing her a letter and telling her exactly how you felt about the relationship and about the breakup?  You don't actually have to give her the letter if you don't want to but sometimes just letting it out can be a huge release.  We may never get closure on some relationships but the closure doesn't have to exist in order to let go of someone.  You have to be aware of your thoughts and every time you start thinking about her, think about one good thing that you have in your current relationship.  That should be enough of a reason to let your ex go.  But I do suggest the letter, it really is therapuetic.

[bbycrissy]

hmm yea my therapist had told me that I should try doing that.
and i have started to write one
but im nawt exactly done
because it seems that everytime i start to write my mind goes blank
or i think to myself that its a waste of time or sumthing.
but since you say that its really theraputic
then i will give it anuther try maybe later on today.
thanks

[Mitch82]

maybe just write randomly wherever you are, pick out those thoughts and write them down, you can piece a letter together from all of that, I mean it doesn't needed to read perfectly it's really not the point of the exercise, also try and think of those things that made the relationship fall down, (but never forget the good things, no matter the outcome those are your to keep special forever) think about those things, wouldn't they simply happen again, you are obviously in a great relationship now, be proud of yourself for that, you have obviously learnt from the past and went about things differently, your ex may not have learnt those lessons yet, hence the reason she keeps contacting you.  Always remember it's ok to cry, it's ok to feel down sometime and if you are living life to the full things like this will happen, it's what we we can learn about them and how we get throiugh them that makes us strong!

[bbycrissy]

sorry for the late response back, but yea thanks =]