I have a Serious problem, with married men.

About Three years ago I started to date a man, he was wonderful and loving and caring, he told me his name was **** and that he was a age of 25, single. We hung out everyday, day and at night. maybe one or two days of the week we didn't but that was rare.  I had no thoughts of anything if he was married or if he was lying to me. He doesn't wear a ring till this day because he hates jewelry. A year later he confronts me that hes married, and he is 34 in real life. He said he lied and gave me reasons. I wasn't mad, for some reason it didnt bother me. At all. I am still with him till this day, and I still see him everyday(almost).  I do not want to cause a divorce or anyone to know im with him.  I want his family to stay together. My problem is I love secrets, like a true scorpio does. but I know once a cheater is always a cheater, if he cheats on his wife, he will cheat on me. I get very jealous but I try not to show it. He tells me he loves me, and misses me everyday. He still goes out and goes to parties, its a russian thing.

I was told so many time to leave him, I asked for advise from many people, it came same. But I cant leave him. I know it will hurt me in a long run, if he leaves me. I know it will lead to that. or we will just be friends because I do want to get married myself. Sheesh, I have a f******* problem. I cant help it. It hurts me now. A lot, maybe thats why im writing this here now. Why cant marry guys be faithful, why do the want more. They marry a women they love, but sometimes I guess they marry wrong.

I am 18 now and we where together since I was 16 but I lied to him to, but he knew it.

Please can someone give me advise!

[AnnieBrooke]

If all your friends have told you to break it off and you won't, what hope does a stranger on the Internet have of getting you to see anything?

You're 18 and helping a married man of 35 to lie and cheat.  You're hiding the relationship.  You want to be married someday to someone else, who (presumably) you will not tell about having had this relationship.  What part of this adds up to something you would be proud to see in the newspaper if things go really bad?  Do you aspirations for your life, or do you just intend to hang about giving sex to liars until someone marries you?  Having a track record with men that sounds sleazy (and statutory rape followed by a back-alley relationship does sound sleazy no matter how loving and caring anyone was) can come back to bite you in so many ways.

[cheshchesh819]

It sounds like you have been given all the advise that we would say but you have choosen to ignore it,so all i am going to say is your reasons are sad and low and if a married man didnt have a bit of stuff who was willing to give themselves to him then affairs wouldnt be an issue,you will get hurt in the end because they never leave their families,but in my eyes you deserve it,messing around with a taken man,my heart goes out to his wife and family who dont deserve this from him or you,i hope your little secret is never exposed because it wont be so exciting then.

[mammo]

You were lied to in the beginning, but once you learned the truth, you should have kicked his cheating butt to the curb.  This man was taking advantage of you you while underage, which speaks volumes about him...he could have gone to prison! Have more self respect for yourself, and end this right away.  He doesn't love anyone but himself, and you have to remember that there are others to be hurt by this than just you. Ths guy is big trouble and you will one day be dropped like a bad habit.  Never get involve with a married man, any man that would cheat on his wife is no good.  Don't even go there...think about it..his wife is sitting home while the two of you party, put yourself in her position...how would you feel if you found out your husband was cheating?  This guy appears to not care who gets hurt, so long as he can have his cake and eat it too!  You need to listen to what everyone is telling you, and also the respect you're losing from friends who know this is wrong. Try taking the high road in life.

[Womanontop]

Not much to say but this: Once a liar always a liar.

[specialmom]

Oh honey.  This post makes me really sad for you.  You are so young and at such a young age you've decided you aren't worth a real relationship.  I hope that you some day come to value yourself more and hold a potential partner up to higher expectations.  

When you seek a mate, you'll want someone that doesn't break laws (your relationship for the first few years would be illegal in my state and this man would be arrested, lose his job and put on the front page of the news as a predator)------------ (oh, and if I were your mother, I'd still take the story public as he hopefully doesn't have any work contact with young girls), you'll want someone that values honesty, one who sees marriage as a committment, one that can put his partner before himself, one that will value you more than anything else, one that wants a true relationship with a peer verses hanging with a child, etc.

I so hope that you have all of this and more when you decide you are worth it.  Until then, please use contraception and practice safe sex.  Good luck and peace.