I need an opinion...

Hi. I am looking for an opinion on my situation and I thought it would be best to come here where I didn't know anyone and get some honest opinions. My boyfriend and I met in high school. I had known him for 2 years when we started dating, and moved in with him on my 17th birthday.  It wasn't planned that way. I was in a bad home life and had the choice of living on my own or being put in the system. He was looking for a roommate but we were also in love. It went very well, I ended up graduating a semester early with a 3.5 GPA and he proposed after I graduated. I got a really great job and things were great.  I didn't know how to drive, had never lived on my own, and hadn't decided what to do with my life. I started to be worried that I could never do these things on my own.  It was at that point that my mother became homeless, and I let her stay with me even though she caused me so much pain over the years. She told me that what I was doing was prostitution and that I was going to hell, put me down, and it was a few months later that I decided to leave. I didn't break up with him, I told him that we needed a break and that I needed to know where I was going in life and that I could do everything on my own. He reacted the way that I believe anyone in that situation would have. He would send me flowers, leave me letters, try to be in my life as much as possible. I pushed him away. I told him that I needed to be alone, but it hurt me to even say the words. We broke up and didn't speak to each other for over a year, until now.  I tried to date, I tried to move on, but I couldn't. He never stopped the letters.  He stayed single. We both want to be in a relationship again and we want to take it slow. I have a really great therapist I have been going to and he says he'll be there with me as long as it takes. His actions show it. This past year I have grown up so much. I drive, I live completely by myself, and I am a full-time student.  I found out that he has cancer. He has at least 6 more rounds of chemo left. No, that is not the reason I want to be with him again. I know I'm only 20, but I can't see myself with anyone else. I guess my question is...can you break up and move on after something like this? We're both willing to do whatever it takes. Thank you for your time.

[NINJAMUFFIN]

yes you def can, if you both love each other and want to make it work then maybe things were meant to work out this way. i understand you needed to grow up and live your life before you were commited u were very young. i defintly think this can work out if you both want it to. love works in mysterious ways

[savingtheanimals]

I like the name by the way, thank you

[emman]

if thats how you feel about him then go for it. i don't see why you should wait any longer. it sounds like you guys were meant for each other.

Remember, in this life.............never ever regret what you did.........always regret what you have not done.

[Salyna]

You are still very, very  young.  I don't think talk of soul mates, etc. is appropriate right now.  This man is at a vulnerable time in his life, so acknowledge that with whatever you decide to do.  I commend you for taking the hard steps that many "girls" your age aren't mature enough to do.  Of course you can reconnect with someone, if both parties involved truly want that.  There's not need to rush into things either, nor should you be expected to pick up where you left off. Maybe one day at a time right now.  Good luck to you.

[savingtheanimals]

your comments are appreciated very much. we have been talking again and although we know it will take some time, we are both in this for the long run. we are taking it as it goes. good luck to you all.