Sex Life

My spouse and I have been together for 8 years.  Lately, I've been more sexually motivated.  I am 34 years old and it's always been about my husband becoming satisfied.  I partially blame myself because, I've allowed this for 8 years. Now that  I am at my peek.. I want and need more. He does not do any oral. I brought a toy and doesn't want to use it on me. He stated that If I brought the toy, he would try it out. Not hardly!  I cannot remember the last time he gave me an orgasm.   He is a Good man and a Great father.. But, what am I suppose to do? Get my stimulation from a toy.  Sometimes it's o.k.. But, not all the time. He seems as though he is scared and hasn't had a lot of experience in this matter.  However, with me I've had and them some with men who taught me and vice versa! Prior to our relationship... I am frustrated and horney @ the same time.  What should I do? Where should I go? But, the main question is how will my marriage survive IF he does not help us? He does NOT see the importance in this matter. Your advice is greatly appreciated in this matter!

[whatayear]

LOL....there is always fling(dot)c.om just kidding! but I agree get him drunk so he is relaxed and buy something for him like an outfit that would visualy help turn him on and the more horney he is im sure the more he will be willing to help you out. my husband is the same way we are in our late 20s but my husband is so boring in bed I cant stand it Im like is this what I have to deal with for the next 50 years! I might aswell shrivel up down there! I have to bed for sex and sometimes we get into fights becuase I want it and he doesnt! we dont drink alot but when he does he is really in the mood needless to say I always have beer stocked in the fridge for the weekends! you know so many things in a marriage are important and sex is one of them ive actually thought about leaving my husband over the NO SEX issue its a big deal to me its not like I want it every night but atleast once a week would be nice without it being a big deal!  Good Luck!

[DLG5]

Geez,  I wish I had that problem.  I haven't had sex with my wife in almost 9 years.