Suicide and divorce

I told my husband last week I wanted a divorce, this past weekend he went on one of his drug binges, then jumped from a bridge onto a highway, he survied. He was more alert today and talking, says he will do it again as soon as he gets out, says he cannot live without me. I still want to go through with it, I am so angry right now, everything is a mess, he left me 38.00 in the bank, with 3 kids.  Just feel so helpless.  I am at a loss right now.

[jo929]

Is your husband now in a mental hosp usually when someone is on drugs and trys to commit suicide, they put them in a hosp i feel for you and the 3 children, but you know what is best for you, i wish that i could give some advice, but i think the decision what to do will have to come from you, also it depends on how long he has been an addict, and if he can quit or even wants to, you can not help him unless he asks for help  luck jo

[teko]

Well for starters, your husband sounds like a control freak.  Think about it! I will try it again! Cannot live with out you?  Did you tell him sorry, I cannot live WITH you!  Tell em to get it overwith before he runs up all those big hospital bills he is planning on leaving you with.  Is there a plug? I would pull it!  How pathetic is that!

[therese83]

Run don't walk to an Al anon meeting

you do not have to be a Christian you work on it, on detaching with love.

[Diva2317]

Make sure you tell the hospital he is staying at that he said that. He shouldn't be allowed to leave until he can prove that he is of sound mind and won't try to suicide again. It is not your responsibility at this point to make sure that he is ok. You need to think about yourself and the kids. He is using suicide as a manipulation to get you to stay, when all he needs to do is really show that he loves you. Sometimes the best thing to do for someone you love is to just let them go.

[jewelscute1]

It will almost be a month since you have posted this situation.  I wonder what happened?  I would be mad if I were you.  I hope you got on public assistance and that he got the mental help that he so desperately needed.  He is mentally ill.

[dying_inside]

I am so lost right now - my husband of 24 years has filed for divorce and has moved out oand on with his life - he has left me all the bills and i am now facing bankruptcy as the only option, providing I qualify as I make a fairly decent wage, but cannot remain in the house for the way it makes me feel and cannot sell it as it is so under water from the economy - we only have debt no assets so I can not sell anything to pay off the debts and I am racking up large bills with lawyers - I just do not see another way out of all this pain - I do not want to be here anymore - a part of me feels bad that I will be leaving my grown children, but right now I really don't care anymore