What is the best way to get over someone?

[Artemis04]

Well if you have read my baby mama or man drama post in relationships that I began on May 20, you will find out that I got my heart broken by a guy that I though really cared about me and I did him. While I am not mad at him and have forgiven him for what he did, I can't forget what he did. My mom tries to coddle me but it does not help it only makes me feel worse. My mom talks negatively bout my ex (such as him being fugly, ect.)  to make me not like him but that makes me sad. I did not like him because of what he looked like, I liked him because of his personality, that he could make me laugh, that he was fun, made me feel secure, ect. I totally understand my mom wanting to make me feel better about the whole thing and wanting to console me but when my heart gets broken, I usually am in a depressive state and just want to be alone. I told her that which may or may have not been the right thing but I had to. I stated to here that I do love her and appreciate her caring but I have to get over him on my own and it may take awhile. I stated to God that I forgave him but could not forget him for hurting me the way he did. That I denounce him from my life and that he does right by his baby mama, daughter, and second child on the way. That when he looks at them he understands he can't be selfish and hurt them or any other female. Would he want someone to cheat on his daughter when she is old enough to be in relationships? I just want him to burn in hell for what he did to me and his baby mama or get cancer from those ciggaretts he smokes. May be I should not wish ill will on him but he hurt me and I want him to hurt as much as I do. I know I deserve and will get better in life as everyone says but it still hurts even though I had only been with him for 3 months. He promised me that he would never hurt me but he did. Maybe it hurts more because he told me he had feelings for me and we acted on those feelings intimately as well as to be seeing me the same time he was his baby mama. What do I do to feel better? I feel more hurt now than when I broke up with my dog of a fiancee back in 2008.

[Encephalomalcia]

A good way to look at it is "Is he worth it?  You feeling miserable?"  No.  No man is worth you feeling miserable.  He is now your past and you need to go through the mourning process and get on with your new life.  Feel free.  You can start over with someone new and wonderful.  When one door closes, another opens.  You may meet someone so special in the future that you will be glad that this relationship ended. Do not live in the past.  Build your future. Look at this a positive way.  Smile and be happy and it will draw people to you and fullfill your life.  

[Cherie762]

In my opinion the best way to get over someone is to get and stay busy, enpower yourself, get a job, take a few classes, even if its exercise , art whatever your into, I think its a good idea to gain inner strength before even thinking of dating,,,thats my plan, Im gonna try to focus on my children and educating myself. good luck to you and remember we gain strength from our experiences, negative and positive