At this point(and Im being viciously honest)if this situation is truelly as u say it is then from this point u need to go because u r the one who is letting this happen.U all have an email situation where all of u talk.WTF.Also u may not realize but u r taking up for ur cheating decietful wife by sayong that shes being basically used by the man to make his wife jealous.No u r being used as a fool.She doesnt love or respect u as a husband,friend or more importantly as the father of her kids.She needs help but thats no longer ur job.She is usong u to get her sexual needs met ONLY because she is embarrased to show that she wears a wig(if them saying theyre not intimate is even true).She is doing what we call having an emotional affair.In the process she is hurting u AND ur children.Its odd and crazy that ur kods have met this married man.This whole thing is odd.If his wife is silly enough to put up with it let her but u dnt have too.She has a history of cheating.She isnt right for u and shouldnt b married.U seem to be scared to move on.It is scary but u deserve to have someone who loves u and is happy with u only not someone who makes u feel inadequate.She can say she loves u blah blah blah.U r letting her do whatever she wants and she will only get worse.This is a form of emptional abuse in my eyes.If u cant realize on ur own know that anyone else hearing this finds it rediculous.GET OUT,MOVE ON
I would have to agree that you are being very badly emotionally abused. This is the sort of nightmare situation that can destroy a person if you let it.
As much as you love her, she has no right to your love or respect. You deserve far, far better than someone like that. To openly hurt you like that, especially while involving your children in it is dispicable of her.
You have control over your life. You do not have to stay with your wife. Yes, separation will be painful, but I can't imagine it being any worse than what you're feeling now.
My advice is to get out of that toxic relationship and start afresh. Nobody should be in a situation like yours.
Yes, you have no control over this so guess what? you need to be a man and get rid of her. She doesnt love you or she wouldnt be playing these mind games with you,emotional abuse!!! what does this tell your kids? this is how men and women treat one another? Please get out of this situation and dont look back, you will be much happier and stronger!!!
see there is no comment so i hope you sorted it out good luck
hi,i must start by saying i think your very brave to have posted what you have...as my god...what on earth did you expect anybody to reply other than what they have..mammo and tink are dumbfounded and myself included..did you honestly think somebody would tell you it would all be ok..? with respect as i dont know you,because if i did i would slap you silly...but..this is seriously wrong.it is that wrong i have to ask myself is ther two sides to this story..because its that hard to believe a woman..and mother can do this! and a man can put up with it.. i try to be diplomatic..but if what your saying is all very true and real then my advice is..RUN..RUN FOR THE HILLS..take charge of your life..look after the children and kick her right to the kerb and never look back
I'm sorry you've been through so much, but now it's up to YOU to start calling the shots! Your wife has every excuse in the world, and her affairs won't stop with this man! Actions speak louder than words and her actions are telling you a horrible story for you and your children. She's not caught up in anything, she's playing you and you need to put an end to this. Your children are going to grow up so emotionally scarred if you don't step in right now and get custody of them. Look at what it's doing to you....think of the kids and get them out of that sick situation along with yourself! The "mental car crash" just buys her time to find another man and why would you wait around for a woman like this? This is not a healthy situation for anyone and why all of you would share in it is beyond me! It's no longer about you or your wife, but your children. This is the most bizarre thing I've ever read and to have your children in the middle of it is just wrong!
I'm sorry for what You have gone/are going through.
I would do EVERYTHING I could to get my Children out of there. "Being there" for Your Children is getting them out of the middle of this!!
Other than that, I can think of nothing to say. This story dumbfounds me. I will say I'm glad this woman is not my "best friend".
Good Luck with Your Children