is he just scared to get hurt and rejecting me?? or what

ok so i started talking to an old flame about ten days ago, that i once had a sexual affair with for a couple months . We have not seen each other in five years, and have not had any contact this time except over the phone and through text messages.yesterday i told him that i was starting to have feelings for him..he said lets not rush it, lets see what happens and just let things do their thing. well today i get this really long seven page text...telling me this and ill quote it for you so you can read into it..."well theres no easy way to say this so it wont hurt...but i think we should stop trying to make things work.im sorry that you opened up to me so much, but i never wanted you to and i never asked you to.im sorry but im not really wanting or ready to be in a relationship now or anytime soon and that is not fair to you.i tried to see if there was any way i could give it a try, but there is no way i couldbe who you want me to be right now.things just went way to fast and its on both of us.i dont know what to say to make it easier to understand what we should do.i wish so bad that there was something i could do , but i just feel that there is no way we could be together.i am sorry that it went as far as it did, i guess i just got caught in the moment.dont take it personal please because its nothing you did or anything to do with you., as a person because you are a really amazing beautiful person. i hope you understand and dont get mad at me for how i feel right now so that maybe you can see us being friends FOR NOW.i understand if you dont, i am so very sorry."

well all i can say is that i been here beforem, it happened to me so fast that it scared the hell out of me and i wanted to just protect myself so i pushed them away.I think he is feeling things for me but he has been so hurt that he is just scared and wants to run away. I called him and talked to him, we agreed that i wont tell him how i feel unless he does...i dont want to lose this guy i really think he is the one...can anyone relate to this or tell me what to do... NO MEAN COMMENTS PLEASE.

[mooksmom]

Lose his # QUICKLY. He couldn't be any clearer that he can't commit. You are reading things into it because you want it to be different...I read he CAN'T AND ISN'T GOING TO COMMIT.
I see irony in your handle and this email/situation???

[AmberNikole101]

Well in mah oppinion i think you should just lett it burn... or lett go in other words.
I dont exactly know all of his feelins bout you or vise versa. Butt like i said lett itt go if you to were really ment to be you will be together fate has its ways just remember thatt.

[samz1469]

Hay girl! The way I see it is the guy has some feelings for you and right now he has issues that need to be tended to! Not your calfs, nor should you try foresting! Looking at what you wrote and how it was all stated, it looks like he might be saying all this becouse he is aware that you are there for him.
My advice to you would be that you go out and find someone with less baggage!  Far to young to waste your life waiting while he is out playing! Does not mean that you can't be friends but you also have a life that needs nurturing!
Good luck ! And enjoy!

[coloradomt]

I know you feel caught up, but as the other posters have said, he made it pretty clear that he isn't ready or even interested in a relationship right now. In fact he only leaves very little hope for the future. I can tell he is a good guy because he DOES try to let you down easy and I can tell he has some feelings for you, he just isn't ready. What I would do is not push it, tey to get involved in something fun that you like to do, or something that is good for you, like exercise or a dance class or a book club or whatever is your cup of tea! Have somethings going for yourself, be busy, and that will show him (if he stays in your life as a friend) that you aren't needy. It will also show you somethings about yourself! I think it's okay to keep him as a friend if you really think you can hold off from expressing how you feel.