lack of sex

[doggylove]

I wanted to ask if anyone can help me.
I have been posting about my marriage but I wanted to ask:
My husband has his own company and is often very stressed out. He always lets me know how I will NEVER understand how much stress he is under............Anyway, we have been married 4 years and the last time we actually had sex was about six months ago (give or take) I have talked to him and asked why and he says it is because he is VERY stressed but when I talk to others they say that that is very abnormal and that even when guys are stressed they still like to have sex.

When I talk to people they say he is cheating on me.............but there don't seem to be any signs of that, he is jealous and controlling..........is that a sign. How could I find out? Does this seem normal NOT to hav sex for so long?

Thanks,
doggylove

[SaraB1]

My fiance is very driven by his emotions. If he is stressed out or upset, he is in no mood to have sex. But six months is a long time. Sounds like something else might be going on there. I obviously do not know your husband but in my opinion if he's not having sex at home he's probably getting it somewhere else. As for the jealous and controlling part, that too is a red flag. Could be that he wants to make sure you aren't out doing the same thing he is.

Good Luck

[lor662]

Hello,I WOULD START TO PAY MORE ATTENTION,,MY HUSBAND STOP SEX WITH ME AND TOLD ME HE HAD STRESS THAT CAUSED HIM NOT TO WANT  IT,,TURNED OUT HE WAS HAVEING AN AFFAIR,,NOT TO SAY YOUR HUSBAND IS BUT ,,THERE CANT BE THAT MUCH STRESS TO GO WITHOUT AN URGE FOR SIX MONTHS,,I WOULD THINK,,ONLY YOU WOULD NO,,START TO DO RESEARCH,,YOU WAITED LONG ENOUGH,,THANKS

[Gzusfreak]

When I get stressed I want it more!!! 6 months & no sex, & he's jealous. Get a computer keylogger, which is not too expensive. It'll copy anything he types online. Or better yet just leave. My wife gives once a month for many months now, but this month is twice & for me it's not good. She has always been jealous & she cheated twice. I'm stupidly still here. I ask for it often but I get called desparate then accusses I may cheat.  To cheat you must lie & deceive. They become very good too.

[doggylove]

Thanks for the help!!
God, I guess he IS cheating. I asked the other day and his response was "I don't have time to cheat" what is THAT!! I have looked at his phone and I don't have the password to his work e-mail........how can you find that out?? I am a HORRIBLE snooper so I don't know where to begin. Plus, I don't know if this makes a difference but almost EVERYDAY he says some sort of comment like "when you leave me I will....." or something to the fact the one day i am going ot leave him.

Can I ask was your husband still affectionate like hugs and kisses or was it NOTHING! He still gives me kisses and hugs but nothing else.?????

[BoHager]

Well i am a guy that has a differant idea of what might be going on. From first hand exp. Women would be surprised Guys fake it to! My wife and I are now seperated for numerous reasons but, I am having male problums and couldn't climax no matter how hard I tried and it was nothing to do with her. But rather than tell her and hear how it was her fault that she couldn't please her husband. I would actually dread the thought of sex. 1) I knew I wasn't going to climax. 2) Affraid if she got the slightest idea I was not being honest about or sex life all **** would hit the fan.I am just speaking from my own exp. every guy is differant! I still today show her affection and I do desire her very much! I also still love her as much as the day we married! I hope whatever the prob. might be I hope you guys can work it out! When he stress out the first things that come to my mind as a guy are work/cash/kids/no outlet (exp.) football game a beer with the guys a good action movie( no spongBob Square Pants lol). I hope to hear how things turn out and good luck!!